Question about Couples Shower

jrodgers239

 I have a bit of a delimma, I am getting married in June of this year and one of my bridesmaids is getting married in August. I am in her bridal party and I know it's customary for the bridal party to attend all of the showers, however, her FMIL is throwing a couple's shower for her and her fiance 1 week before my wedding. I need to have my fittings and bridal portraits the couple of weekends before my wedding weekend. I don't want to be a bad friend/ bridesmaid and not go because I have things I've got to do for my wedding, but when it comes down to it, my wedding is more important to me than hers. Is it bad of me to miss her shower if I have to schedule fittings/ trial runs during that time?

GoodLuckBear14

no.  and if she says a word to you about it, she is not a good friend.

itzMS

No. You aren't obligated to attend the shower, even if you are in the bridal party.

I would suggest making a special effort to send your friend a small gift, flowers, and card to her shower, though!

MayDay513

No you aren't obligated. You are supposed to be invited to all, but you don't have to attend all.

hordol

Don't worry about it. I have a BM that isn't attending mine and it's not a problem at all.