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Catholic Weddings
Questions
1. What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it).
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Re: Questions
1. My biggest wedding pet-peeve is probably when there's any sort of delay/gap between the ceremony and reception, and there is nothing organized for guests to do. For instance, ceremony ends at 3, you get to the reception site at 3:30, and you wait until 4:30 before the cocktail hour starts. If there's a legit scheduling reason this has to happen (for instance, if you can't find a venue that will allow you to start at 3:30), then I get that, but I've known people who chose to have an hour or longer gap so they could do pictures and not miss any of the reception or cocktail hour, and I think that's annoying.
2. I'm not opposed to cash bars. If the option is no bar or cash bar, and you're not trying to have a dry wedding, then I'm not offended by a cash bar. I mean, I'd rather it be an open bar, but if that's not an option, I'd like to option of buying myself a glass of wine.
3. I'm a big fan of dancing. A good DJ and some fun guests, and that's what I crave at weddings. Whenever I go to weddings without dance music, I'm always secretly a bit disappointed.
4. My "I don't get it" is definitely the whole "have a pop song played on the piano for the bride to walk down the aisle" trend. I just can't take it seriously when Taylor Swift playing during a ceremony. Sorry, I just can't. To each her own, but I don't get it!
1. What is your biggest wedding pet peeve?
Receiving lines and/or the release by rows concept. I know, I'm terrible. It's just soooo boring as a guest to wait and wait and wait.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
The whole sit-stand-drink-don't drink rules and stuff when it comes to toasting. Just say what you're going to say and let's get the party going. DH & I got "lessons" on when/how it was proper for us to do things. Ugghh.
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
Besides watching the vows (I tear up every time!), I actually like the food. Usually I don't remember what I ordered and I like trying different things.
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings?
Guests blowing bubbles as the couple exits, slideshows/videos at the receptions, blushers, bridesmaids with exact matching shoes and hair, head tables
2. The cash bar thing. I would also rather have a cash bar than no bar. Unless it is an intentionally dry wedding. Then I think it's really disrespectful when people find ways to get their alcohol anyway.
3. Cheezy line dances? I really do love them, even though I know they are unpopular on TK. My actual favorite is the anticipation. That sounds weird, but I love getting dressed up and wondering what the wedding is going to be like. I love hearing about other people's wedding plans and ideas. And if I get to enjoy a glass of wine and do the Electric Slide at the end of the day, all the better.
4. The obsession with Unity Ceremonies. Especially when there are like 10 of them in one wedding. You are getting married! That's the unity right there! Why do you need another symbol of that? I don't get it.
A longer gap, especially when it's out of town and I can't just go home in between. The last one I went to luckily lots of other friends were at, so we all went to our hotel rooms and had a couple drinks before heading to the cocktail hour. Would've been nice to avoid that.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
Cash bars - honestly, they're so common around here that I had no idea they were an etiquette breach until I started poking around on TK. Another is hand-addressing invites (also didn't know about that one until TK), what's the matter with having the envelopes printed in a nice, legible font? Who inspects the envelope much anyway?
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
I love seeing the ceremony and what the couple's done to personalize it. Also, dancing!
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it).
Favors - having a nice reception is a great thank-you to your guest for coming, I just don't understand putting the money and effort into favors. If it's edible, that's cool, but I would've been just as happy to come to the wedding if I didn't get a little box of chocolates or something. And if it's an item like a shot glass personalized with the couple's wedding date... maybe I don't really want to keep it, but I feel too guilty to throw it away. Not that I think favors are stupid, just unnecessary.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings?
I definitely second Biblio's table assignments thing. It's always such a cluster at every wedding reception I've attended without seating assignments. There's nothing more awkward than sitting at a table with your date, when you don't know anyone else, and then everyone else arrives and no one sits with you. And so you're sitting at a table for 10, with two people. And then people keep coming to your table, asking if they can grab a chair so they can squeeze in at the other, overflowing tables.
And I second the unity ceremony thing. Every time I've seen it done, it's been because the mothers REALLY wanted it, so I get that. I'm not going to hate on anyone for it, but it's not my thing.
[QUOTE] I HATE table assigments. Makes me feel like I'm a child assigned to a seat. I'm an adult and want to sit with people that I want to sit with. Not who the bride thinks I want or should sit with. (To me its the same as judging a relationship on whether someone gets to bring a guest or not)/ I had been to LOTS of weddings growing up of family and friends, and only in the last 10 years or so have I seen table assignments.
Posted by agapecarrie[/QUOTE]
I'm chuckling that we feel exactly the opposite about this.
I was actually fairly neutral about this until I was in a wedding a few of years ago. H (then BF or FI or something) was unable to attend, and my family assumed that since I was in the wedding, I had to sit at a head table or something, and didn't save me a place when they found seats while I was in the middle of pictures. It was a really awkward situation -- they ended up cramming me in at their table, which was super awkward for the staff and probably not appropriate. That made me a big fan of table assignments.
I like not being stressed about picking a seat.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it).
I agree about favors. I kinda wish that as a society, we could all just decide to skip on favors. I did them for my wedding because I didn't want to be rude or anything, but yeah. People just always forget them anyway.
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]
this, exactly! The only time I ever didn't like being assigned a table, I was seated next to the brides grandmother, and with a whole bunch of her family! AWKWARD! The bride reaaaally must have not had a place to put us, haha! But we literally didnt know like anyone there, so even if we hadnt been assigned a table, it still would have been awkward. (just in a different way.)
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it).
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2. I don't think gaps are that big of deal and didn't think anything of them until I came on the knot. I ended up having a hospitality suite at the hotel where OOT guests were staying for our wedding but have been to plenty of weddings where nothing was hosted and it didn't really bother me. I actually find it more annoying when we are expected to go straight to the reception and then the wedding party gets delayed with pictures and arrives late (meaning 2+ hours after guests instead of the typical cocktail hour) and I am stuck standing around waiting especially if there is little to no food.
3. Favorite part as the guest is the ceremony and the vows in particular. Also like to dance and catch up with friends.
4. I also don't get all the unity ceremonies. Why do you need something extra?
Another pet-peeve of mine is how few people understand addressing invitations. I'm not talking about ink color, cursive vs print, etc. I'm talking about basics, like specifying who is invited, having some mention of the reception, etc. The last two wedding invitations I received had no mention of a reception. Both had receptions. What's up with that?
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[QUOTE]Another pet-peeve of mine is how few people understand addressing invitations. I'm not talking about ink color, cursive vs print, etc. I'm talking about basics, like specifying who is invited, having some mention of the reception, etc. The last two wedding invitations I received had no mention of a reception. Both had receptions. What's up with that?
Posted by Resa77[/QUOTE]
lqtm. Must be a new trend!
The last one I received had no RSVP card. I told the bride-to-be there was none, and that was apparently the intention.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal? Not having a bouquet and garter toss. We had one and it was fun. I think it is your day so you and your future husband should decide what you want and don't want.
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest? The food and mingling/chatting with people.
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it). I don't get the whole engagement party thing. Our friends had one and I think it was fine, but it just wasn't our thing.
People treating a wedding as an excuse for a big party, so lack of reverence for what they are actually partaking in. I don't really care for the garter toss either, some of the ones I've seen have been quite racy...I've also seen some really obnoxious speeches where people have had too much to drink and end up saying things that are borderline unkind...painful to watch.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
Cash bar, as mentioned before here I would much rather have the option to pay for a drink than have no drinks unless it is an effort to have a dry wedding, I can respect that.
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
I love the ceremony and watching the people commit to one another and the dancing
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it).
I don't understand having obscene bridal parties, I'm talking 9-12 bridesmaids...I mean I understand having a lot of really close friends...but it just seems to take some of the sentiment out of it...not a pet peeve, just don't understand why some brides do this.
Not sure, mostly cash bars and not allowing someone a plus one.
2. What's an etiquette rule that you don't think is a big deal?
Gaps, I can understand why they are rude but every wedding except for 2 I've been to have had them. We either go home and relax or go find a restaurant to relax at and grabs foods/drinks at in between.
3. What is your favorite part of the whole wedding experience, as a guest?
Cake and watching the couple be so happy. No wedding I've been to is the same either.
4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it). Cowboy boots with wedding dresses and/or bridemaids dresses.
[QUOTE] 4. What's your "I don't get it" when it comes to weddings? (Different than pet peeve because it doesn't have to really annoy you, as much as you don't understand the fascination about it). Cowboy boots with wedding dresses and/or bridemaids dresses.
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]
<div>Haha, I totally agree with this one. I always laugh at the girls who not only insist their bridesmaids wear boots (which are actually kind of uncomfortable against bare skin, especially if they're brand new and you're having an outdoor wedding in Texas in June...) but insist that they all match. "Look how Texan we are!"</div>
Speaking of which, I agree that strapless stuff generally looks ridiculous. I did the "wear a gray dress; make sure it is appropriate for church" thing. I noticed was that not a single person (4 person sample size) chose a strapless dress for themselves. Go figure.