FI and I are facing a hugely stressful dilemma regarding our date. Our wedding on the Eastern CT shoreline was originally scheduled for July, but we've run into a major issue with our venue which is causing us to re-book the date. Unfortunately, at this point, the only other dates they still have available are in either late August or late October.
Overall, I don't mind the idea of getting married in August because the weather is still summery and good for beach-going, as I had intended. However, the one date they still have open in August happens to fall just two days after my birthday... and I really hate the idea of my birthday and anniversary permanently being so close together. In addition, FI and I are planning to honeymoon in Florida, and late August is one the worst possible times for us to be down there because of the elevated hurricane threat.
On the other hand, because we're getting married by the shore, I really don't like the thought of opting for October. Though the ceremony and reception will both be indoors, a huge part of the reason that we chose our venue is because of its location. We have many out-of-towners attending from FI's side of the family. While they have indicated that they will make every effort to show up regardless of when the date is, most of them have never been to New England (some haven't even been to the ocean). A number of them are also planning to take a full week vacation here, and I feel like it would be selfish of me to have them come to the CT shoreline at a time of year when they will not even be able to enjoy the beach and related activities as they originally planned. I know the foliage here is beautiful in October, but if I had wanted to have my wedding in the fall, I most likely would have picked a different venue altogether.
Sorry for the long post... I'm just so stressed over this. What would you do in my situation? Is it wrong of me to even consider October given the fact that my guests have been expecting to attend during the summer? Any advice would really be appreciated.