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Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!

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My fiance proposed last week and I am loving engaged life! We are both 21 year old music students in upstate New York (I play tuba and he plays euphonium).  He proposed at school during a student association meeting.  The ring is a gorgeous rough diamond in an antique style setting.  It is perfect for me and I could not have picked one better myself! We're both going down to Denton, TX at the end of the summer for grad school at the University of North Texas.  We aren't going to get married until the summer of 2015 (after our masters degree and before our DMA) but I'm excited for engaged life and wedding planning! 
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  • kmbryant2413kmbryant2413 member
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    Welcome, and congratulations on your engagement! 

    The forums here at TK are very different than the website. The Knot is a wedding industry, designed to make money. Their 'top vendors' are the ones who paid the most, etc. So the checklist here on TK is going to be designed to help you spend the most money possible, especially through their website. I didn't really 'do' a checklist when I got married, but some other ladies will certainly be able to direct you to a great one, or give you some ideas.

    Most regulars here first suggest setting up a budget with your fiance. It's a great communication builder in addition to laying the foundation for your wedding. Remember, that a wedding does not need to put you in debt, and you shouldn't start off your marriage that way! While you should properly host your guests, you do not need to break the bank for it.

    After you have set up a budget, set up a guest list, and then look for a venue that will comfortable house everyone. Don't go the other way with choosing a venue then a guest list, it usually comes out poorly. From there, you can go dress shopping, cake tasting, and everything else to your hearts desire! It is also STRONGLY advised that you do not ask anyone to be in your wedding party (bridesmaids, MOH, groomsmen, etc) until 7-8 months or less until your wedding. A LOT of unnecessary friction can arise.

    I would highly recommend lurking the boards. Etiquette, DIY (if you're that kind of person), and Budget weddings will all help you get a great idea on how to host your guests, and the ladies here give great advice. Many of them on the forums however have strong personalities, and while they are blunt and honest, please do not take it as a personal attack! You can learn a whole lot here on the forums that the regular Knot site might not provide for you (and you might make some friends :))

    Make sure you take time to enjoy being engaged! Give us some more details, and welcome to The Knot!


    BTW: Denton and UNT are great schools! Where in Upstate are you? I lived in Ithaca for quite a while and I am moving down to Dallas/Denton area this fall :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-and-new-to-theknotcom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:8482cac7-8a3a-4663-88c0-424aa44bc12bPost:f4113134-8391-4eb7-ae8f-a272c404c58e">Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!</a>:
    [QUOTE]My fiance proposed last week and I am loving engaged life! We are both 21 year old music students in upstate New York (<strong>I play tuba</strong> and he plays euphonium).  He proposed at school during a student association meeting.  The ring is a gorgeous rough diamond in an antique style setting.  It is perfect for me and I could not have picked one better myself! We're both going down to Denton, TX at the end of the summer for grad school at the University of North Texas.  We aren't going to get married until the summer of 2015 (after our masters degree and before our DMA) but I'm excited for engaged life and wedding planning! 
    Posted by CaseyN125[/QUOTE]

    <div>Congratulations on your engagement and I'm excited to meet another tuba player!</div>
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    Congratulations! Your ring is beautiful :)
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Welcome to the Hotel Knot!  Watch out for KMBryant b/c she is a biter and sometimes touches people inappropriately. 

    Congrats and happy planning!
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  • kmbryant2413kmbryant2413 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-and-new-to-theknotcom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:8482cac7-8a3a-4663-88c0-424aa44bc12bPost:d1d45fa6-7e73-4a6e-8726-4a0289648a66">Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Welcome to the Hotel Knot!  Watch out for KMBryant b/c she is a biter and sometimes touches people inappropriately.  Congrats and happy planning!
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    OMG, that one is great. 
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  • GammadersonGammaderson member
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    Congratulations! This is very exciting. Good luck to you on wedding planning.
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  • CaseyN125CaseyN125 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-and-new-to-theknotcom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:8482cac7-8a3a-4663-88c0-424aa44bc12bPost:f7fecf08-c931-448e-9405-12ebbb6773ad">Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Welcome, and congratulations on your engagement!  The forums here at TK are very different than the website. The Knot is a wedding industry, designed to make money. Their 'top vendors' are the ones who paid the most, etc. So the checklist here on TK is going to be designed to help you spend the most money possible, especially through their website. I didn't really 'do' a checklist when I got married, but some other ladies will certainly be able to direct you to a great one, or give you some ideas. Most regulars here first suggest setting up a budget with your fiance. It's a great communication builder in addition to laying the foundation for your wedding. Remember, that a wedding does not need to put you in debt, and you shouldn't start off your marriage that way! While you should properly host your guests, you do not need to break the bank for it. After you have set up a budget, set up a guest list, and then look for a venue that will comfortable house everyone. Don't go the other way with choosing a venue then a guest list, it usually comes out poorly. From there, you can go dress shopping, cake tasting, and everything else to your hearts desire! It is also STRONGLY advised that you do not ask anyone to be in your wedding party (bridesmaids, MOH, groomsmen, etc) until 7-8 months or less until your wedding. A LOT of unnecessary friction can arise. I would highly recommend lurking the boards. Etiquette, DIY (if you're that kind of person), and Budget weddings will all help you get a great idea on how to host your guests, and the ladies here give great advice. Many of them on the forums however have strong personalities, and while they are blunt and honest, please do not take it as a personal attack! You can learn a whole lot here on the forums that the regular Knot site might not provide for you (and you might make some friends :)) Make sure you take time to enjoy being engaged! Give us some more details, and welcome to The Knot! BTW: Denton and UNT are great schools! Where in Upstate are you? I lived in Ithaca for quite a while and I am moving down to Dallas/Denton area this fall :)
    Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]<div>
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    </div><div>Thanks for the tips! I'm in Potsdam right now, its so funny that you are also moving to that area! The area seems great and my fiance and I can't wait to get down there (you should try eating at Rooster's Roadhouse, it's awesome).  We're going to wait until we finish our masters to get married so I luckily get to enjoy being engaged in such a relaxing time frame :) 

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  • CaseyN125CaseyN125 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-and-new-to-theknotcom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:8482cac7-8a3a-4663-88c0-424aa44bc12bPost:2f49a8af-8016-49f6-8b09-86d415f2a067">Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Newly engaged and new to theknot.com! : Congratulations on your engagement and I'm excited to meet another tuba player!
    Posted by KeptInStitches[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Thanks! It's great meeting another player :) What/where do you play? </div>
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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-and-new-to-theknotcom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:8482cac7-8a3a-4663-88c0-424aa44bc12bPost:a1cedc9c-21e7-40dc-ad03-f9c4f95a3324">Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com! : Thanks! It's great meeting another player :) What/where do you play? 
    Posted by CaseyN125[/QUOTE]

    <div>I played in high school and college, but had to give it up when I started grad school. I just played in the university band ("lower" ensemble), but I really enjoyed it and I miss playing a lot.</div>
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  • CaseyN125CaseyN125 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-and-new-to-theknotcom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:8482cac7-8a3a-4663-88c0-424aa44bc12bPost:b1629d0f-fe9b-41f5-8a8d-a3ab82fd1094">Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newly engaged and new to theknot.com! : I played in high school and college, but had to give it up when I started grad school. I just played in the university band ("lower" ensemble), but I really enjoyed it and I miss playing a lot.
    Posted by KeptInStitches[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>That's awesome! I'll be doing my MM and DMA in tuba performance with a focus in music in medicine hopefully :) </div>
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