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Newly Engaged

bakexlovebakexlove
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I'm new to the boards and I got engaged 3 days ago, I'm very excited to be engaged to marry the love of my life. We've been together for almost two years now. I'm hoping to have a small intimate outdoor wedding this year in August. :) I'm a cake decorator and I never thought I'd actcually have the chance to choose my own cake one day, easier than I thought. So I have a lot picked out already (dress, honeymoon, reception, flowers) but the future in-laws are trying to move it to a year from now. Anyone have any advice?
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Who is paying for the wedding?  That information will affect my response about your in-laws. 

    When you say you have a lot picked out, do you mean you have purchased or secured those things, or you've seen pictures?  You just got engaged 3 days ago, so it seems unlikely that you actually HAVE those things. You're kind of going about it in a haphazard way. Have you set a budget? Created a potential guest list and then found a venue that meets your needs?


    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • bakexlovebakexlove
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    I planned on paying for the wedding myself from the start. We had planned to get married a while ago and we've been talking about it openly before being engaged officially. I have my dress and accessories mostly all paid for. I have my cake picked out, I'm getting my flowers quoted on. My parents offered to pay for some of it, which I am very grateful for. I'm trying to stay around $3000. No bells and whistles, I want it to be simple. I want to get married at the bed and breakfast we are staying at for our honeymoon. Hopefully trying for less than 20 people.
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  • formerlyCooperformerlyCooper
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    edited April 2013
    Congratulations and welcome! If you and your FI are paying for the wedding, and have a date in mind for this year, then please don't let your parents or future in laws guilt/blackmail/bully you into changing the date. They do not get input if they are not paying. Their only obligation is to choose whether or not they'll show up and what they will wear. Good luck to you! I've heard horror stories about brides with over the top pushy parents, so I sympathize with you if you're going through that.
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  • MarieeWeddingsMarieeWeddings
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    Congrats on your engagement!! 

    I say do whats right for you and your FI. After all this is your big day!! Enjoy planning!
    Renee Flores - Wedding Coordinator, Mariee Weddings http://marieeweddings.com
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  • bakexlovebakexlove
    Second Anniversary First Comment
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_newly-engaged-57?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:b77dbc58-d7c7-4636-b08f-6163382941e6Post:23aac9a6-f9ae-4b24-8133-7594fd5538f8">Re:Newly Engaged</a>:
    [QUOTE]Congratulations and welcome! If you and your FI are paying for the wedding, and have a date in mind for this year, then please don't let your parents or future in laws guilt/blackmail/bully you into changing the date. They do not get input if they are not paying. Their only obligation is to choose whether or not they'll show up and what they will wear. Good luck to you! I've heard horror stories about brides with over the top pushy parents, so I sympathize with you if you're going through that.
    Posted by formerlyCooper[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thank You! Yeah, the funny thing is I thought my parents were going to be worse but it ended up the other way around. I still don't plan to have his parents pay for anything. Its been difficult and stressful on us with their opinions of waiting a year. I understand but its not what we want. I just hope they come around and realize they can't control everything.</div>
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