Who To Invite from your Class?!?

lallerton16

I realize many people may not be able to relate to this topic, as most college degrees you pick whatever classes you need to take to graduate, whenever you can. 

However, my predictament is that I am a graduate student in a doctorate of physical therapy program and there are the same 28 people in the same class, 5 days a week. Needless to say, many of us do become close, and others not so much because there is a relatively large number of us. We have been in school together for almost 2 years now, I get married August 10, 2013 and we don't graduate until May 2014. 

So I currently can separate this group into 3rds, "definitely not inviting", "maybe inviting", and "I'm pretty sure I'm inviting" but there are some people who are on the fence between maybes and being invited. 

Is there anyone else who has had this problem? And how did you determine who to invite?

The people that I am on the fence about, are people who I was closer with in the beginning of our schooling, and have since become not AS close, but still chat with them every day. 

(It'd be so much easier if I was getting married after graduation because then I could base it on who I still speak too, but since I see everyone everyday, this is not possible!)

-Sorry if this is super confusing, but this is what its been like for me haha the dynamics of this group of 28 people is too much!

marquata1

I TOTALLY understand! I am in school for childcare and for all program classes its pretty much the same people. We have this issue when we plan group parties! haha A few girls come to mind like I talk to them but I don't know if I would want them or their plus ones at my wedding. My fiance and I are waiting untl August of 2015 to get married and we graduate April 2014 so I think in that time it would show me who my true friends are AND if things don't work out I probably won't see them again. Think of people that know you and your fiance, or people that you would be comfortable with your family meeting, or ones that you would invite to your own home.

PrincessJas

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[QUOTE]I TOTALLY understand! I am in school for childcare and for all program classes its pretty much the same people. We have this issue when we plan group parties! haha A few girls come to mind like I talk to them but I don't know if I would want them or their plus ones at my wedding. My fiance and I are waiting untl August of 2015 to get married and we graduate April 2014 so I think in that time it would show me who my true friends are AND if things don't work out I probably won't see them again. <strong>Think of people that know you and your fiance, or people that you would be comfortable with your family meeting, or ones that you would invite to your own home.</strong>
Posted by marquata1[/QUOTE]

<div>This.  I may see my grad school office mates every day, and talk with the peers in my research group on a daily basis, but there is a single person in the entire program who I consider a "friend" because he hangs out with my FI and myself outside of classes, we go out together, and we've traveled together to meetings, conferences, etc., and not killed each other :D  He is the only one of all those people who is being invited to the wedding.</div>

annmarie714

Who would you be sad about missing their wedding if they got married? Invite them.

If there isn't anyone who's wedding would be a bummer to miss, don't invite those people.

ravenray

I think the real question to ask first is can you afford to invite the maybe people?  If you can then I agree with the other girls, do you hang out with them outside of school?  I probably wouldn't invite them if I didn't.   If you can't than problem solved.

egeurts

PP's are right. First factor in the friend aspect, and second the "can you afford it" question. But even after that, if you have some wiggle room, do they have to travel at all? If you think that its possible some may say no or may not be able to attend, you may be able to spare a few extra invites. (NOTE: DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT/ DON'T HAVE SPACE). 

For example: My wedding was out of state. I basically told all of my school friends that anyone who was ACTUALLY going to make the trip was invited. So 3 people told me they were serious, and they came. Another of my friends is doing the same thing this summer. Normally I hate the idea of open invitations, but in scenarios where travel is needed, sometimes they're necessary. Like I said, I don't know if this applies to you, but if you think that anyone might turn down a spot, maybe extend a few extra invites. 

SP29

I am in the same boat as you- I am currently in my last year of my physiotherapy program in Canada. My wedding will be in the winter after the program ends (we end in Oct). 

I am only inviting people from my class who are actually my friends- people that I regularly keep in touch with, even when we aren't in class (like during breaks or when we're on placements), that I make specific plans to hang out with (not just a class event), and people whom I rely on for support. Thus, I am inviting 5 people (and their SOs) from my class of 85. 

smilingviolinist

I was not sure whether to invite my private music students and their families to my wedding reception. I suppose people might have trouble figuring out who to invite of their business colleagues or classmates or maybe a group at church. 4 weeks before the wedding, I figured out what to do. I sent out an email to all of my students letting them know that they were welcome to come, they would just need to let me know if they were interested and how many would be attending. Immediately I received emails from people who said they were happy to be invited but that they couldn't come. Others were very excited and either just a few or in some cases the whole family will attend. Now I know who to send the invites to and I already have their RSVP's from their email. I still have to follow up with those who didn't respond, but I am glad that I figured out a way to get the word out and find out who wanted to be there.

lallerton16

Thanks guys! out of the 28 I decided to invite 6 people, and gave them a plus one because they are all in significant relationships. And I based it off of who I am the closest with and expect to be the closest with after graduation