Super vent...
We were all set for a drama-free wedding, minus one little hiccup with FI's bachelor party. Until this past weekend. Why is it that people seem to be able to create drama where there doesn't need to be any right before the big event?
First, there was drama over the block of rooms we booked for the wedding party. FI had offered the rooms to all of HIS friends, and not a single one of mine, which I was MIFFED at him for. One of the rooms opened up, and FI and I agreed to offer it to some of my friends, one of which decided to take it. Well, FI thought I knew that the rooms had been offered to his married/coupled friends, but not the lone single one--which I didn't. So he assumed I would be offering it to my friends AND his lone single friend--which I of course didn't. I assumed his single friend had been offered it and declined. So, major drama because that friend now feels they were left out and so do his other friends. Well, I'm sorry about that--it was completely unintentional... but what about my friends being left out entirely? His single friend was able to book a nearby room at the same hotel. This should not be cause for drama!
Then FI's cousin, who is truly single and was not invited with a plus one, decided to invite a guest. A few weeks ago FI called him to let him know the invite was only for him, and FI asked who the girl was. Cousin seemed to indicate this was a girlfriend who was significant that the family didn't know about. I thought our wedding was a strange place to introduce a longtime girlfriend, but I said that of course she was invited, we didn't know he had a girlfriend. Fast forward to this weekend, we see cousin at an Easter function, and FI asks cousin to tell him about the girl. To which cousin responds, "Oh, she's nobody special. Just some girl." FI nearly blew his top, and asked cousin why he should pay $100 a plate for "some girl" to come to our wedding. Clearly, cousin was out of line, and FI should not have brought up money, but we thought it was settled, since I jumped in and said, "It's fine, we've already made room for your guest." Well, cousin later got into a text war with FI over his date, saying that "it was awkward" and he didn't feel he could "uninvite" his date (which we NEVER asked him to do). So cousin goes off the deep end, uninvites his date and tells us he's not coming to the wedding (FI, by the way, said they were both welcome, multiple times). Great, so now it's costing us twice as much for two plates that will go uneaten. Thanks, cousin! If you think it's going to be any LESS awkward going forward, you have another think coming.
Then there's the bachelorette party drama. Oh dear God, help me. I specifically asked for a low-key event that did not include bar-hopping because I'm not into that, so that's what my MOH planned. Well, now some of the girls (FI's friends) want to go bar-hopping after the dinner that was planned. Now I feel obligated to join them, although I don't really want to, and even though half the people attending don't drink. To add to this mess, one of the attendees was asking we move the party closer to the city (where she lives), but further away from where most of us live. We decided not to do that, and now she's not coming. Seriously?
I really like these people, and dearly love some of them, too--but WHY ARE THEY MAKING ALL THIS DRAMA? I'm tired of dealing with OPD (Other People's Drama). Is there a polite way to tell them to knock it the eff off? All I'm asking them to do is dress up, sit through a short ceremony and be witnesses to our marriage, and then we're throwing a kick-butt party with an awesome dinner. Is that really too much to ask?