Giving Roses

GinaV0822

Did you give your parents roses during your wedding ceremony?  What is the etitquette on this?  Is this a personal preference?  We have good relationships with our parents but honestly didn't think about doing this.  

When I was going over the final details with the florist she said that she would include the roses for the parents.  I told her I hadn't planned on doing this and she said it was common to do.  She said we didn't have to but that most ceremonies do include it.

We are not getting married in a church, if that matters.  From what I have read it's a sign of love and respect to the parents.

Did you do it or not do it?  Have you missed it at a wedding?  Would it be disrespectful to NOT do it?  I don't really have a reason for not doing it, just honestly hadn't thought about it.

Advice please!

MuppetFan

I've never heard of this....interested in what others respond with.

TKzilla

If someone receives a rose, doesn't that mean they want to continue pretending to date them on a TV show?  :P

Our moms will have corsages, dads will have bouts.

kipnus

I've never seen that done. We gave corsages to our moms and bouts to our dads.

lilphillips14

In my parents' wedding, my mother handed out bouquets/corsages or something to my grandparents. The minister called it a 'token of peace' and when we watched the wedding video last night, all I could do was giggle about the phrasing of it. It was so somber and serious and if I would do it, I'd just be giggling and looking at my mom and FMIL like 'try to keep a straight face.'

But that's neither here or there, if you hadn't planned on doing it, I wouldn't add it to the ceremony, but my mom said she probably wouldn't do it now if she had it to do over again, so I don't think it's going to be missed.

AddieCake

We did corsages and bouts.

TKzilla

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Giving Roses : Well played. I wish Chris Harrison could have emceed my wedding!!
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<div>I would have Chris Hardwick from Talking Dead do our's lol</div>

MuppetFan

oh so its instead of coursages and bouts? 

GinaV0822

We are doing corsages and bouts, but the roses would be during the ceremony.  I think I did this in my first wedding 17 years ago.  Sad that I don't completely remember.  I think I just assumed it was more of a church thing.  

Summer2011Bride

We each gave our moms a flower right after we lit the unity candle. Many Church weddings I've attended had this, usually right after the unity candle lighting.

It's completely personal preference and I don't miss it when it isn't there.

ETA: Not in place of corsages. This was in addition to each mother having a corsage.

Simply Fated

To me, the ceremony is about the bride and groom. They are the ones making a union to each other. 

Giving a corsage, rose, what ever is very sweet, but shouldn't be done during the ceremony. Perhaps before or after, instead. 

Viczaesar

I've never heard of this, but my mom's allergic to roses (as am I) so it's not something I would ever do.

avolker1

We are doing this during the ceremony, as well as the corsages and bouts. Our ceremony will be secular, so I don't think it's a church thing. I like it because its a way to recognize the support of our moms, and for me being raised just by my mom it's important.

lovesclimbing

I have never heard of this.  And fwiw, I did get married in a church.

We did corsage and boutonnieres but those were given before the ceremony began when they arrived for the wedding.

Kate61487

We gave roses to the moms; I thought it was a pretty common Catholic tradition so I'm surprised that so many on here haven't seen/heard of it. 

I honestly don't remember when we did it... if it was around the unity candle, near when I took the flowers to Mary, or near the sign of peace...  Regardless, we just went to each mom and gave a single rose and hugged them.  I actually recall hearing that the original tradition was that the bride took a rose to MOG and the groom took a rose to MOB, but my parents took both together b/c my mom and her MIL don't have a great relationship so she wasn't really comfortable taking it alone.  MIL and I have a great relationship, but I liked the idea of us taking them together.  As PP said this was in addition to the corasages our moms had. 

If this isn't something you've seen before and it's not something either mom would be expecting / hurt if it was excluded I wouldn't bother.

FizzySips

I saw (on tv, of course - Four Weddings) that the roses are a gift from you to your husband - your first gifts as man and wife. Never seen this in a ceremony other than that.

lyndausvi

I've seen it done often during Catholic weddings.  All my siblings did.   We didn't get married in the church so we didn't.

QueerFemme

I did this at my first wedding when I got married at the ripe young age of 19 !!  YIKES!!

Single roses were placed up at the altar area, and mid ceremony, immediately after the candle lighting, we each grabbed the single white rose and gave them to our own mother.  Honestly, It was awkward.  And it meant my MOH had to readjust my dress after walking down the two steps from the altar area to where my mom was sitting. 

It just sort of seemed like a weird moment. At the time, it seemed like a way to honor our mothers, but looking back, I am really 100% of the opinion that the ceremony shouldn't include anyone but the couple, the officiant and maybe a musician/reader.  Unless it's very common in your circle, (in which case, you would probably already know when/how to do it) I would say skip it.

swimmy1988

We're doing corsages and bouts too.

My mom wanted us to give our parents roses after we signed the register and before we are announced as husband and wife because fi and I are incorporating a rose ceremony in our wedding (where we give each other a rose as the first gift to each other as man and wife). Fi and I decided not to do the rose thing with our parents though, we felt it sort of takes away from the marriage ceremony - because our marriage will be the two of us, not anybody else lol. I think my mom wants to have a special moment with me on my wedding day because my dad gets to walk me down the aisle and then have a father/daughter dance at the reception.

libby18bell

The roses are giving during Catholic weddings to the mothers during the sign of Peace, when the bride and groom give the parents a hug and each mom a rose.  As of right now we aren't doing it, cause I have no idea what the moms are supposed to do with the roses after that.  They won't really have a place to put them during the reception, and aren't going to their hotels in the in between time.

jamierocksanne

My mom recently just got remarried, and while the parents of the groom had corsages and bouts (my mom has no living family aside from us, her children...) she handed roses to the grooms sisters and brothers, more like a welcome to our (small, little) family and thank you for accepting us (not that i personally cared, but from the way my mom puts it "we're a hard nut to crack...")

I have seen it at a few others (dad owns a wedding entertainment company and I work for him from time to time...but I'm still a fan of corsdages and bouts for moms and dads...