FMIL attire

Brooke+Jon

Is it ok for the MIL to wear a black gown to sons wedding? My mother is wearing a knee length silver dress. Our colors are teal and purple.

Peledreamsofrain

The mothers aren't a part of the wedding party, and nobody should tell them what to wear.

That being said, there exist people out there who throw a nasty B-fit over the mothers wearing black (like it's the midieval times and women are public property where everyone can tell them what to wear *rolls eyes*).

If there's anyone nasty like that in the family that will make the mothers feel unwelcome and uncomfortable over such a stupid reason, that's the only point where the bride should step in on the issue.  And if anything, it should be confronting the horrible family member.

stantokm

MOBs and MOGs can wear anything they want.  They don't have to match wedding colors.  I told my mom and FMIL that the only thing I didn't want them wearing were white ballgowns.  They complied. 

[Deleted User]

I think that'd look lovely with his mom in black and yours in silver. If that's what she'd be happy in, let her wear what she wants.

Yes, as Pele mentioned, back in the day (my mom always brings this up) wearing black to a wedding was considered rude. However, I haven't been to a wedding in the past 10 years where that was still true. Most people I know think a black dress for a semi-formal occasion is always lovely and I've seen many MOBs and MOGs in black.

AddieCake

Yes, she can wear whatever she wants. 

winelover123

Did she ask your opinion on her dress? There's nothing wrong with wearing black to a wedding anymore.

manjermj

My MIL wore a long black skirt with a black/red/white tweed jacket and it looked awesome. So if she wants to wear black, let her!

rachelm13

My mom is wearing black.  My BMs are in black.  FMIL definitely side-eyed it, but, my mom LOVES black.  Honestly, it's NBD as long as she isn't wearing a black veil and acting all mournful.

Loopyseven

She can wear whatever she likes.  The only pictures I have with both mom's together or mom's with WP members are candids from our getting ready time.  No big deal if they don't "match".

Brooke+Jon

She did not ask for my opinion, and I did not tell her my opinion. I never told my mother or her what they could wear because I know it's not up to me. My mom asked me for my opinion on dresses and I helped her pick one out that she liked. I just wondered what popular opinion/etiquette on wearing black to a wedding was because she mentioned that she wanted to wear black to fianc. If its no problem, then it's no problem with me.

Brooke+Jon

Oh dear Lord, a black veil... I just laughed so hard!

julibug86

My aunt wore black to my cousin's wedding (her daughter) last fall and she looked lovely!  I do think this is an old school idea as the only side-eyeing was done by my mother and my grandmother.  But then again, my grandmother also side eyes anyone without pantyhose and anyone wearing strapless dresses.