Based on bridal party entrance thread

Jen4948

As an alternative to "introducing" the bridal party, would it make sense to have their names in programs with a small photo of each person by their name?

NYCBride2013

I am not sure what is correct etiquette-wise but I would ask your BP members first.  I personally would not be please if my picture was in the program without my approval.  I feel the same wasy about wedding websites!

lisabeats

Eeek... This I would definitely ask the WP about doing. I would personally not be a huge fan of my picture being printed out and handed out to 200 strangers,

itzMS

I guess?

It's not common in my circle to make a "big deal" about the bridal party.

Do guests really care about who's who in the bridal party?

Jen4948

itzMS: Probably not. 

Stage: They might not all go down the aisle in the same order as they are listed in the program.

Everyone: I came up with this idea simply as an alternative to the "bridal party entrance."  Everyone at the wedding is going to see the persons who are listed as "wedding party members" in any case when they walk down the aisle.

Jessa617

Not everybody has programs though. Then what?

Jen4948

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[QUOTE]Not everybody has programs though. Then what?
Posted by Jessalyn2013[/QUOTE]

Then nothing is done.  It doesn't have to be universal.

Viczaesar

You don't need an alternative to a wedding party entrance.  Honestly, the only people who care who your wedding party members are the people who already know that information.  For everybody else it's boring and often awkward.

AddieCake

I have honestly never cared who the bridal party was. And I don't mean that in a negative way as if they don't matter. They matter to the couple. That's why (presumably) they are in the bridal party, but it makes no difference to me who they are unless I am speaking to them and would like to call them by name.

Kate61487

I actually saw a really cute program idea (pre-pinterest) where the couple had basically made a playbill for their wedding; so each of the BP members had a "headshot" and I thought it was the cutest thing. 

BUT I think you absolutely have to clear it with the BP members.  Some may not want their photo out there.  Some may want to choose the photo so it's one they feel is flattering. 

I've never had an issue figuring out who the BP is.  Their names are listed in the program, they're standing up there in matching dresses / suits.  I personally enjoy seeing the "friend of bride", "sister of groom" descriptions but they're unnecessary.  The really don't need photos or introductions.

curious, why won't they be walking/standing in the order listed?  I'm pretty sure that's a broad general practice...

Jen4948

Well, at my brother and SIL's wedding, one of the bridesmaids actually didn't show up.  I don't know what the story was there.

And I honestly have no idea what will happen at my own wedding.  It's just possible that for some last-minute reason there might be a reshuffling.

itzMS

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[QUOTE]I actually saw a really cute program idea (pre-pinterest) where the couple had basically made a playbill for their wedding; so each of the BP members had a "headshot" and I thought it was the cutest thing.  BUT I think you absolutely have to clear it with the BP members.  Some may not want their photo out there.  Some may want to choose the photo so it's one they feel is flattering.  I've never had an issue figuring out who the BP is.  Their names are listed in the program, they're standing up there in matching dresses / suits.  I personally enjoy seeing the "friend of bride", "sister of groom" descriptions but they're unnecessary.  The really don't need photos or introductions. <strong>curious, why won't they be walking/standing in the order listed?  I'm pretty sure that's a broad general practice...
</strong>Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

Aside from the MOH and Best Man, our bridal party did whatever order they wanted as far as I know. I was more concerned about getting myself down the aisle to DH. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

I have no idea how they were listed in the program, as our church printed them.

lyndausvi

I'm nosey and love to know who is who even if I will never see them again.  A lot of times it's simply putting a face to a name of someone I might have heard of before but never met.  

For example living in the islands none of my friends met my sister, but they had heard of her. Having her name as the MOH, sister of the bride in the program allowed people to connect the name and face together.  We did have a BP entrance, but not only are they normal for our crowd.  Everyone is also nosey like me.

Anyway, I'm weird like that.  If you don't want to do an BP entrance just have their names in a program.  Someone like me will still be able to figure out who is who.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]Well, at my brother and SIL's wedding, one of the bridesmaids actually didn't show up.  I don't know what the story was there. And I honestly have no idea what will happen at my own wedding.  It's just possible that for some last-minute reason there might be a reshuffling.
Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]
What does it matter if there's a reshuffling?  Or if a bridesmaid doesn't show up?  Seriously, nobody cares who's who in your wedding party.

Jen4948

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Based on bridal party entrance thread : What does it matter if there's a reshuffling?  Or if a bridesmaid doesn't show up?  Seriously, nobody cares who's who in your wedding party.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

Relatives and friends of mine and my BF would care!

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Based on bridal party entrance thread : Relatives and friends of mine and my BF would care!
Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]
And those are the people who don't need an announcement.

Jen4948

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Based on bridal party entrance thread : And those are the people who don't need an announcement.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

Yes, they would.  They don't all know each other.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Based on bridal party entrance thread : For someone claiming "not to give a flying fig," you're spending so much time being hostile and defensive that your claim lacks credibility.
Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]
Logic fail, dear.

Jen4948

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Based on bridal party entrance thread : Logic fail, dear.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

Yup-coming from you.