Hey y'all!
There's a bit of a sticky situation in FI's family. Background info: His cousin, "J", has separated from her husband, "M". It's been not quite a year. When we first made the guest list, they were still together. In VA, a couple must be separated and living apart for a certain amount of time (over a year, I think) before they can legally divorce. Since his family as a whole is generally pretty secretive about negative things, we don't know much about the situation, ie if they are reconciling or if they have decided to go through with the divorce when possible. They also have two young sons.
This is our current plan for handling STD and invitation: We've decided to only invite J. Our original guest list and budget only accommodated the two of them. With the possibility of new significant others, we don't have room for both. Also, FI is closer to J than to M. We will send a STD to J, with just her name on the envelope (we are not inviting children). We're not sure if she is currently seeing someone given the situation, so for now we are not giving her a guest. When the time comes to send invitations, we'll talk to her and find out if she's in a new relationship or reconciling. At that point, if she has a new SO or is back with M, we will invite them with her. If not, we'll just invite her as currently planned.
My question: is this an appropriate plan? Can y'all think of any better ways to handle this, or are we going about it the right way already? Thanks in advance for any input!