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Getting Stressed!!! *VENT*

I am so frustrated...my FMIL has told me she was going to take care of several things (the flower girl's outfit since it's her neice, the RD, etc.) Throughout the whole wedding planning process she has failed to get things done when they need to be done; I had to nag her about 50 times to get 3 addresses of her family members, among many other things. So, to say I don't trust her to get anything done is an understatement. She is responsible for the RD (as we've discussed since the beginning). Of course she hasn't done anything that she needs to, so it's falling on my fiance. I feel terrible because it's not his problem to deal with. And he's asking me who is going to set it up, etc. Quite honestly, it's not my problem who is setting it up. I've found people to set up our wedding of 250+ people...if they can't find someone to set up tables and chairs at a local community cabin, I don't know what to do. I am not trying to be a bridezilla about all of this, but I told my FMIL since the beginning, the RD can be super simple (we are having qdoba catered). If she can't figure out how to do that, I want to throw in the towel. End Vent.
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  • Sounds like you've done everything you can do. The only actions you can control are your own, and if she doesn't get it together- she'll look silly, not you. 
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  • SwazzleSwazzle New Jersey member
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    That's really frustrating. I'd say you should just plan it yourself at this point.

  • That is frsutrating. I would let her figure it out. As long as you are ok with the outcome, let her take responsibility for the event, whether it is good or bad. I guess an unwanted outcome from that is your fiance will be burdened with the work. Maybe talk with him about just leaving it up to his mother. That is what we are doing. I honestly don't care what the RD is like, so I haven't even spoken with my FMIL except for when we should arrive. Good luck!
  • Thanks, ladies. My fear isn't how it will turn out, more that it will even happen. FI and I got it figured out, he took it over from his mom since he knows she won't do it, and he and I are going to plan it together. We'll get it taken care of. Last night I was just in a huge panic because she frustrates me so much. My FI reminded me that at the end of the day, we will be married and that's all that matters. :) Just the reminder I needed!!
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