Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :D

p0tt3rgl33k

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... : In the interest of full disclosure, I thought I'd put this here. What I get from this is that you not only bought a dress before you were engaged, but while you were actually married to someone else?
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

Like I said to someone else.... My marriage was over when I left him. The rest of it was just paperwork and legal junk. That was Sept 2010. I get with bf in Jan 2011.

s-aries8990

Potsy, just breathe.

Ya know, if you build up the proposal and engagement, it might let you down a bit.

p0tt3rgl33k

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[QUOTE]I'm still wrapping my head around why you would MARRY someone instead of just ADDING THEM TO THE APARTMENT LEASE?  You thought they wouldn't care if you were married?  But, but, but.....  Nope.  My brain just kicked that shvit straight back out.  It refuses to hold it.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

My brain kicks it out too when I think of it now.....

p0tt3rgl33k

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... : But... but I thought... "It was brand-new strapless Michaelangelo's A-Line, complete with DB tags.... for 549.00."
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

Couldn't remember the cost exactly ..... but yeah....

p0tt3rgl33k

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]Potsy, just breathe. Ya know, if you build up the proposal and engagement, it might let you down a bit.
Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

i know.... I have seen so many amazing proposals. But I know that if he comes up to me tomorrow and says, "hey, want to do this?" as he gives me a hug..... I will be thrilled...

GoldenPenguin

So what happened with the bitter custody battle?

p0tt3rgl33k

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[QUOTE]So what happened with the bitter custody battle?
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

He won. Said a bunch of lies.... Now I can see my daughter about once a month, supervised.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]So what happened with the bitter custody battle?
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

THat's what I'm wondering...you said you have been chilling but when I think of going through a divorce, chilling isn't the word that pops into my head.

ETA: Spelling

RWS2011

Yeahhhhhh.... I had just begun to introduce my BF (at the time) to my daughter around 4 or so months... as my "friend."  When you have a child and you are coming out of another relationship, even if you are SO IN LOOOOOOVE with your new partner, you need to take your time for your child's sake.  I knew he was a good man, and he and kiddo got along immediately, but we were in no rush.  They continue to have a fabulous relationship, now after almost 5 years.

Also, after years of being in a relationship, and many successful interactions with my (now) FI's family, his mom went batty on me.  FI was 100% on my side, not just because we are SO IN LOOOOOOVE, but because he knows me well enough to confidently say I was in the right.  There is value to taking your time to know each other well.  It makes for a much more solid foundation for your family.

p0tt3rgl33k

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... : THat's what I'm wondering...you said you have been chilling but when I think of going through a divorce, chilling isn't the word that pops into my head. ETA: Spelling
Posted by mhollister89[/QUOTE]

It was a pain when it happened..... But I got through it...and now I want to move on.

p0tt3rgl33k

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[QUOTE]
Posted by buggle2[/QUOTE]

Troll... in the Dungeon..... Thought you ought to know... *faints*

Nope, not a troll... sorry.

GoldenPenguin

p0tt3rgl33k

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]Yeahhhhhh.... I had just begun to introduce my BF (at the time) to my daughter around 4 or so months... as my "friend."  When you have a child and you are coming out of another relationship, even if you are SO IN LOOOOOOVE with your new partner, you need to take your time for your child's sake.  I knew he was a good man, and he and kiddo got along immediately, but we were in no rush.  They continue to have a fabulous relationship, now after almost 5 years. Also, after years of being in a relationship, and many successful interactions with my (now) FI's family, his mom went batty on me.  FI was 100% on my side, not just because we are SO IN LOOOOOOVE, but because he knows me well enough to confidently say I was in the right.  There is value to taking your time to know each other well.  It makes for a much more solid foundation for your family.
Posted by RWS2011[/QUOTE]

I have never actually introduced him to my daughter as my anything.... I just said "this is ***". Not daddy, not friend... just a name.  And that was..... Over two years ago, that I introduced her to him.

p0tt3rgl33k

not disappearing..... just leaving for a bit.... I will be back later...

RWS2011

I was writing my last post when it came out that you don't have custody, but still, you are planning a wedding with someone that barely knows your child?  I don't know the whole story here, but there is an awful lot of information that leaves me scratching my head in disbelief. 

You seem to be in such a rush to move on that you are failing to see that your current behavior in this relationship is only slightly less impulsive than the behavior that landed you in your last marriage.  I ask again, what is the rush?  Don't you think you will still be in love and ready to marry him in 1 year, or 2 years? 

kmbryant2413

Sounds like she's pretty happy that she sees her child once a month. I'm sure it's convenient.

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]Here are the facts, as I see them: 1) You got engaged to a man instead of adding him to your apartment lease. You were engaged for a total of three days and had a courthouse wedding. If my math skills are right, you were 19 (7 year relationship, counting backwards from it's end in 2010; you stated you are 29 now). 2) You had this man's baby.  3) You stayed married to this man for 7 years, and then a bitter custody battle ensued along with your pending divorce, which started in 2010. 4) Four months after your divorce procedings began, you started dating your current BF. 5) Five months after that you purchased a wedding dress and began the process of actually having it altered.  6) Your divorce is was finalized, and you lost custody of your child because your first husband "lied."  7) You are "27 months" into your relationship with current BF and think that you will be getting engaged this month.  And this is what I think about that: 1) What 2) The 3) FUCCK If I were you, I'd be putting time and effort into regaining joint custody of your child rather than dreaming about a PPD.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

It screws a kid up to know that their parents care more about spending time on themselves than with their kids.

kmbryant2413

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... : It screws a kid up to know that their parents care more about spending time on themselves than with their kids.
Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

Stina51286

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]I was writing my last post when it came out that you don't have custody, but still, you are planning a wedding with someone that barely knows your child?  I don't know the whole story here, but there is an awful lot of information that leaves me scratching my head in disbelief.  You seem to be in such a rush to move on that you are failing to see that your current behavior in this relationship is only slightly less impulsive than the behavior that landed you in your last marriage.  I ask again, what is the rush?  Don't you think you will still be in love and ready to marry him in 1 year, or 2 years? 
Posted by RWS2011[/QUOTE]

This is probably why she doesn't have custody of her child. A judge will not just remove a child from a parent and only give them supervised placement one day a month if that parent did nothing wrong and "lies" alone. In my 6 years working family law, I have never seen/heard of that. It takes more than just "lies" to have your child taken away.

OP YOU ARE BSC...

Elle1036

This kind of throws a wrench into my "Harry Potter fans are generally superior to Twilight fans" theory.

beanbot2002

This is all I got.

GoldenPenguin

Bean wins the internet.

cu97tiger

In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :
[QUOTE]This kind of throws a wrench into my "Harry Potter fans are generally superior to Twilight fans" theory.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

New theory:

HP > Twilight > HP + Gleek

beanbot2002

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[QUOTE]Bean wins the internet.
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

motoLyn

Hahahahaha!   Bean I have mssed you sooooooo much!

Belle2188

loves2shop4shoes

OP, you have given me brain freeze.  And I have not consumed cold food or beverages.  That takes talent.

You bought a wedding dress while you were:

1) Legally married to someone else
2) Dating someone for less than a year
3) NOT ENGAGED!

You had it altered...WHILE STILL NOT ENGAGED.

You lost custody of your child.  And only get monthly visitation.  Supervised.  Do you KNOW the kind of sh!t your ex-H had to PROVE for that to have happened?!  Holy $hitballs.

And your energy is still being focused on a PPD?!

AND ON TOP OF THAT, all of this makes sense in your puny mind?

God help us.  You need a paid friend.  And badly.

minskat30

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[QUOTE]  You lost custody of your child.  And only get monthly visitation.  Supervised.  Do you KNOW the kind of sh!t your ex-H had to PROVE for that to have happened?!  Holy $hitballs.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

All of this.  Unless the judge and your ex were best buddies (in which case you should have had it removed to another judge in the first instance but, regardless, could appeal the ruling now), "Lies" as OP put it do not cut it to deprive you of custody of your child with once a month supervised visitation....proof of something really bad does.  Poor kid. 

ally91

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[QUOTE]
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

Happiest gif I've ever seen.

IrishDreamer

In Response to Re:Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :[QUOTE]OP, you have given me brain freeze.nbsp; And I have not consumed cold food or beverages.nbsp; That takes talent.You bought a wedding dress while you were:1 Legally married to someone else2 Dating someone for less than a year3 NOT ENGAGED!You had it altered...WHILE STILL NOT ENGAGED.You lost custody of your child.nbsp; And only get monthly visitation.nbsp; Supervised.nbsp; Do you KNOW the kind of sh!t your exH had to PROVE for that to have happened?!nbsp; Holy hitballs.And your energy is still being focused on a PPD?!AND ON TOP OF THAT, all of this makes sense in your puny mind?God help us.nbsp; You need a paid friend.nbsp; And badly. Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE] An example of one if the bajilion reasons I love you