My son has been dating a wonderful girl for almost 2 yrs and I believe they will be engaged soon. We have always had a very close relationship, until fairly recently. He is now extremely devoted to his girlfriend's family, to the point where I rarely see or hear from him. His future in-laws are lovely, and have made it very clear to me that they now view him as part of their family. He takes vacations with them, spends weekends at their home, and even spent Mother's Day last year with them. IHis girlfriend has not made any attempt to get to know me, although I have made many attempts with her (taking her to lunch, dinner, shopping). When I have tried to discuss the situation with my son, he becomes very defensive and says that I am too sensitive. My birthday and Mother's Day are both next week and no plans have been made to celebrate either occasion with me.- my son did call to inform me that Mother's Day, again, will be at the in-law's home, and that I can join them, if I want. His future mother-in-law texts me, saying she will be calling to make plans, but does not follow-thru. I am divorced and on a limited income, so cannot provide the things that her parents can, but try to do what I can on holidays, special occasions, within my means.
Is this just a phase, or something that will continue in the future? My son has mentioned several times that his future in-laws are "more fun and out-going" than I am - yes, I am more quiet and reserved, but am a good person, and am considered very down-to-earth by most people. This situation is causing me much distress and sadness. i have tried to avoid any conflict, so as to not create drama, but feel abandoned and hurt by my son, girlfriend, and her parents. I do perceive his future mother-in-law as somewhat controlling, over-bearing and rules the roost over her family members. My gut tells me she may be the source of these issues, and my son seems to want to please her as well. Advice???