Rarely do people like their job. That's obvious. I am not a special snowflake, but more am looking at some outside opinions on what to do. Forgive me in advance for the slightly long story, it's kind of necessary to avoid further questioning.
I am a receptionist in a mechanics shop. My office is dirty all the time (dirt, brake dust, etc) to the point that when I wash my hands, it's black. Every. Single. Time. I also have to walk across a parking lot to use the bathroom in the main office because there is not one for women here in the shop (I'm not dainty, but that bathroom is NASTY. It also does not have a door so I could walk in on someone/be walked in on.) Now. These have been annoyances of mine, but I know it's nothing major. My dad is lead mechanic here and I was graciously given this job as a 'favor'.
The big boss is my bosses brother. He works in the main office. My boss works in the shop with me. My bosses office is connected to mine by a door (which he leaves open constantly, though I have asked him to keep it closed.) He chain smokes. Well, after my allergist visit Monday, I learned that the cigarette smoke is damn near the number one thing I am allergic to, and it IS the number one thing that is giving me asthma attacks. I'm lucky if my boss shuts the door when he smokes right next to me, and I have asked him to shut it several times. I have posted a sign that says 'Please no smoking in my office'. He says 'Yeah, sure, sorry.' We have had this discussion several times. There is no HR, this is a small family business.
I used to have snacks in my drawer, and I used to have a candy bowl to be kind to the employees, as I am outside work friends with several of them. My boss let his kids come in one weekend and spill soda all over my desk, eat all my candy, and get into my drawers personally and eat my food that I brought from home. When confronted, he said 'Oh, sorry, didn't have a babysitter.' Less than a week after that, a bag of candy was taken straight out of my desk. The whole thing. No no, he left ONE Twix in the bottom. I nearly walked out right then. I don't take kindly to being stolen from.
Some side notes: The first day I worked here, he told me he had to go to the Dr. because he cheated on his GF and might have an STD. Turns out he did. He also brags loudly about how many women he has flucked, and screams at his ex wife in the office next to me. I don't know what is acceptable to just 'let go' because it's none of my concern, or what.
If I quit right now, I would have enough to pay my bills for about a month. The job also costs me literally 10 in gas each and every day to get here and back. I feel like if I quit now, without a job, then I'm being dumb because I could just shut my mouth and look past MOST of my troubles. I also feel like it might reflect poorly on my dad (I'm not saying I would go in and say 'EFF THIS I QUIT'. I would give my two weeks and probably cite smoking concerns). Am I being a chicken for not talking to big boss? Others have gone to him with legitimate concerns and nothing has happened with my boss. Are my reasons really enough to give my two weeks? Am I being retarded because I'm tossing out a solid, steady job?
Anyone who reads the whole thing, thanks SO much. I know it's long.
TIA for any suggestions or advice, I really do need a perspective from people not close to me.