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Frustrated with my mom- vent

So, my mom got into running almost 2 years ago.  She now runs just about every day, has completed a bunch of races including a half marathon, and has lost about 50 pounds.  All of these things are great, the whole family is very proud of her.  With that being said, it has basically turned into an obsession.  It is all she talks about.

I have run since high school and also run 5ks regularly when I can.  Over the past 5 or 6 years I have had some back issues that have prevented me from running as much as i'd like to at times.  On one occasion my mom invited me to run a race with her about a week after I had an injection in my spine.  I wasn't able to run, she knew that, and kept asking me.  It upset me and I told her. 

Fast forward to last week.  I texted her to see if she knew whether our orthopedist had Saturday appointments.  My knee had been killing me for about a week and I needed to get it checked out.  Two days later she asked me to come run a race with her on Mother's Day. . . . I explained that was not an option because of the situation with my knee.  I went to the doctor, have an MRI and follow up scheduled.  I called her and we discussed my current issue at length.  Basically, the doctor thinks that if I have any cartilage left in my knee it may be torn.  That means I likely need a procedure done or surgery.

Last night I saw her at my nephew's t-ball game.  A running friend of hers came over and was chatting.  The friend asked if mom was running the Mother's Day race.  Mom said she was then pointed to me and said "I'm trying to convince Kaos to run it with me, but she doesn't think she can keep up."  Clearly this annoyed me.  . . . I responded "Or I just found out that I have no cartilage in my knee and she wants me to run anyway."  I know it was an exaggeration but I was annoyed.  Then I left.

I'm guessing at this point she isn't going to change her ways, but it just frustrates me.  Advice would be appreciated if anyone has any. . . . if not, thanks for letting me vent!

Re: Frustrated with my mom- vent

  • I know people like this. Honestly, I just back off/walk away when they don't stop talking. Because it's your mother, it's obviously harder.

    Do you think you could sit her down and talk about it?
  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    In Response to Re: Frustrated with my mom- vent:
    [QUOTE]I know people like this. Honestly, I just back off/walk away when they don't stop talking. Because it's your mother, it's obviously harder. Do you think you could sit her down and talk about it?
    Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

    When you  try to discuss serious things with her, especially if it's something she is doing that upsets you she gets defensive and tries to turn herself into a victim. . . . it's one of those "i'm sorry I can't do anything right" type things. . . . . nearly impossible to reason with.
  • That sounds very frustrating. Maybe a good heart-to-heart with her would help? If not, I'm a fan of the killing-with-kindness approach: maybe the next time she says something like the thing about you not keeping up, just smile serenely and say, "Well, you know what's been going on with my knee, but I know you'd give me a run for my money anyway!"

    If that's literally all she's really gotten into and talked about for the past couple of years, maybe you could try a new hobby or activity together, if there's anything you would both want to try. That might replace an old annoyance with a new one if she is competitive/obsessive like this with everything, but maybe her becoming the novice again would take her down a couple notches for a while.
  • I think your reaction was good. Honestly, get up and walk away from her before you say anything. She sounds like the type who wouldn't recognize that they're saying/doing anything wrong.
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