Tshirt in grocery store

kmmssg

DS doesn't get WHY this offends me and makes me angry to the point is does but, oh well.

We were just in the grocery store and a woman in her mid-ish 30's was wearing a gray t-shirt.  On the back of the t-shirt is said (in fairly large letters) F___ you, you F___ing F___.

Really?  In the grocery store?  Plenty of school kids walking around their moms and this woman wears a shirt like that at the grocery store?  It pushed my button hard.  Super classless, tacky, and rude.  Yes, it pissed me off big-time.  And, in all honesty, I don't like the F bomb.  But it could have said shiiiit and I would have thought it was just as bad.

DS proceeded to lecture me about constitutional freedoms, etc.  Whatever son.

(3rd time trying to start this thread....)

NYCMercedes

Did you say something to her? Well, probably not because you're still alive.

daria24

I walk by a store on my way to/from work every day that has that shirt hanging outside. But it's the West Village in NYC, we have strap-ons & dildos hanging in store fronts, so it doesn't really phase me. 

IDG why someone would want a shirt like that personally, but eh whatevs. 

Peledreamsofrain

I don't like super offensive shirts in places that kids are guarenteed to see them. In other environments, like clubs or something, I don't care.

MrsGandthebeag

I drop the F bomb a lot, and I mean a lot.  I would NEVER wear something like that.  You're right that it's tacky.  Some people just don't think about how they're coming across to others.  

kmmssg

I get equally ticked when people speak like that around kids.

lyndausvi

My sister is pretty conservative.  She uses those situations as learning experiences.  More like this is something that is allowed by our constitution, but just because it's not against the law doesn't mean its right thing to do.

RamonaFlowers

I've lived at the Jersey Shore for the last 23 years. Maybe it's all of the Benny-summer tourist jerks (aka "people like the cast of 'Jersey Shore' do exist, but no, they don't live here-they just trash up the place in the summer") I've been exposed to over the years ... most with their own children in tow, but to me: meh, it's a shirt. If you (general you) have your own literate children with you and they see something like that, and for some reason there has never been exposure to the "F word" (Or any other "bad word") prior to that moment, it's on you, as their parent, to explain to them about "adult" words, and "appropriate language". It's not the rest of the world's job to be a parent to your (general your) kid ... and that includes throwing on a t-shirt with the "F word" on it before running out to do errands.

No, such a shirt is not "appropriate" for anybody to actually wear anywhere outside of a frat house ... but from my own personal experience in (Jersey Shore) retail, I can assure you, if somebody's wearing a shirt with that printed on it, it's really just a beacon saying "Oh, don't worry, I will end up saying this and much, much worse tonight in front of my children, you, your children, and the Pope and the Queen of England if their f*cking hoity-toity @$$es decide to come along, too ... and I don't give a f*ckng f*ck who f*cking hears it".

Long story short: you can't control what other people wear in public. What you can control is how you react to it-such as, realizing somebody like that obviously isn't going to care if you get your panties in a twist over their shirt ... and if your own children ask questions about it, to make it a point to teach them about good and bad words ... preferably out of earshot, since somebody wearing that shirt most likely can (and will) beat the living snot out of you for criticizing their klassy wardrobe.

s-aries8990

I agree that it's super tacky, but if they're wearing a shirt like that they mustn't give a rAt's behind what people think about them anyway. It's their right to wear what they want, but it doesn't mean they don't look silly. It wouldn't necessarily piss me off, but I'd side eye the crap out of them and just turn around to go the opposite way.

RamonaFlowers

In Response to Re: Tshirt in grocery store:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tshirt in grocery store : I wish you came around here more often. Oh and this ^ I'm nodding.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]


I've been lurking a lot lately, but I honestly just haven't been replying as much to anything because I'm seriously half-expecting to get banned one day because I happened to be wearing a pink shirt while posting, and while there's absolutely nothing in the new "clear" TOS that actually says "No posting while wearing pink shirts", the KG will be all "Nope, wearing pink shirts is obviously against the rules, because we don't want to foster some type of Mean Girls environment here".

So until the "clear" TOS is actually made "clear" ( ...and let's face it "not utterly stupid"-oops, can I say that about the current TOS?) , I'm keeping my posting at a minimum.

s-aries8990

In Response to Re: Tshirt in grocery store:
[QUOTE] Long story short: you can't control what other people wear in public. What you can control is how you react to it-such as, realizing somebody like that obviously isn't going to care if you get your panties in a twist over their shirt ... and if your own children ask questions about it, to make it a point to teach them about good and bad words ... preferably out of earshot, since somebody wearing that shirt most likely can (and will) beat the living snot out of you for criticizing their klassy wardrobe.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

All this.

kmmssg

In Response to Re: Tshirt in grocery store:
[QUOTE]My sister is pretty conservative.  She uses those situations as learning experiences.  More like this is something that is allowed by our constitution, but just because it's not against the law doesn't mean its right thing to do.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

This is pretty much how we have always rolled in our family too.  I did use it as a learning experience.

kmmssg

"Long story short: you can't control what other people wear in public. What you can control is how you react to it-such as, realizing somebody like that obviously isn't going to care if you get your panties in a twist over their shirt ... and if your own children ask questions about it, to make it a point to teach them about good and bad words ... preferably out of earshot, since somebody wearing that shirt most likely can (and will) beat the living snot out of you for criticizing their klassy wardrobe."
Posted by RamonaFlowers

That is exactly what I did.  I controlled my reaction to it, didn't call her out on it (because she probably would have tried to beat the living snot out of me), and explained to my 17 yo son why I felt it was so innapropriate.

If she is willing to wear that out in public to the grocery store she obviously doesn't care what people think of her - I think she is klassless and tacky.

Yessieyo35

Who cares?

Yessieyo35

He's 17. he's probably said exactly what was on that shirt to a classmate at some point in time.