What to do....

lanibug73

My mother has stage 4 ovarian cancer, and it seems that she may be taking a turn for the worse...and I am not sure if she will make it to my wedding which is June 22nd - dont have a clue what to do....

This is my second wedding, and I sooooo know that she is looking forward to the wedding, its all she talks about when we talk...

thejucheidea

Keep your plans for 6/22. If she truly takes a deep dive for the worse, see if your officiant would be willing to hold a relationship blessing by her bedside. There's a poster here, audrewuh, who had a beautiful blessing ceremony just before her father passed away a few weeks before her wedding. Her photographer even came out to capture the event.

minskat30

First of all, I'm very sorry to hear about your mother.  My thoughts are with you and her.

My dad passed from small cell lung cancer about a month before H and my wedding.  There were and are no words for that kind of loss right before what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life.  My dad went from bad (but cognizant) to terrible very quickly so we didn't have time to do a blessing before he passed.  I think a blessing is a great idea, however, and a nice way to make sure she is part of the process if you don't think she will be able to make it.  In the interim, talk to her about the wedding...let her be happy about it and happy for you, get her ideas for some songs you want to play, etc.  When my dad was still with-it, we talked about the wedding a lot and I incorporated several of his ideas into the wedding day which made me feel like he was with me even more that day.

nannymn

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. It must weigh heavy on your heart. Please know that no matter what happens with your mom, she will be with you on your special day...either in person or in spirit.

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wittykitty14

I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.  It's very hard to see someone you're close with struggle.  My memere had ovarian cancer, and it was hard to see her suffer.  My pepere had lung cancer for a couple years.  He died a week before this past Christmas.  Losing someone is always hard, but having it around special occassions makes it much worse.  It may sound selfish, but I'm really sad that he won't be here for my wedding in July.  He and I were very close, and it breaks my heart that he won't be there physically.  We all thought he was going to make it-so did he!  It wasn't until about a month before he died when things starting going downhill and I began to have my doubts about whether or not he'd make it to July.  We had no idea he would pass before Christmas.  As hard as it is though, you get to a point where you don't want them to suffer anymore, because you can't bear it.  I was the last person to see my pepere before he died.  I left him sobbing, because it was too hard to see him like that. I had to leave for about 3 hours and by the time I came back he was gone.  As hard as it was, I knew it was a blessing. 

Keep your plans the way they are. My pepere was very stubborn, and didn't want anyone to change their places just because of him. My mom was originally scheduled to have foot surgery the day after he died, but she wanted to postpone it to take care of him.  He told her NO, to have it anyway. He didn't want other people's lives to stop happening.  I'm sure your mom is the same way.

I hope everyone's words bring some comfort to you.  This is a really hard situation to be in.  I wish you and your mom the best of luck.  You're in my prayers.

gottahavashorti

I would keep the plans you have.  Not because it means the possibility of your mom not to be able to go, but due to the amount of work it would take to push the wedding up.  It would take up time that you then wouldn't be able to spend with her.  You could figure out the most important aspects of the wedding to her and try to share those things with her now - if it's seeing you in your dress, have your hair and makeup trials, put on your dress, and do a bridal photo shoot with the two of you.