Bridesmaid dress duty?

Janeandrews33

I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a family member's wedding.  I am a college student with a pretty tight budget, but I agreed and saved up for the dress and alterations. However, after I bought the dress, the bride decided she needs alterations to change the design of the dress.  I did not budget for changing one dress into another dress.  I want to make the bride happy, but I feel like she is asking a lot. What should I do? Does this fall under my duty as a bridesmaid or hers as the bride?

Hello+Panda

Your only duty as a BM is to show up wearing the dress to the wedding. That being said, I would speak to the bride in person and explain the situation. Alterations are expensive, and bridal salons (or wherever you got you dress from) don't usually do returns. Be calm and explain the situation, don't be "I'm a poor student and I have no monies!" Being a BM can get expensive, so keep that in mind the next time you have the honor of being a BM.

mlg78

This is a tough one. Did she privately ask you your budget before selecting a dress?

AddieCake

I think if she suddenly wants the dress completely altered, then she needs to pay for it b/c it is out of the realm of the original agreed-upon budget/dress. You saved up and paid for the dress, and now she wants you to pay, essentially, for another dress. 

gottahavashorti

Hers.  Particularly if it puts you above the originally agreed upon price point for dress + alterations.

erinlin25

since you already ordered the dress she originally picked out and she now wants to change the style, that is on her IMO.  If the alteration cost falls below your original planned budget, I'd just do it (but would be annoyed).  But if its going to be expensive I would for sure say something to her.

Maggie0829

In Response to Re: Bridesmaid dress duty?:
[QUOTE]I think if she suddenly wants the dress completely altered, then she needs to pay for it b/c it is out of the realm of the original agreed-upon budget/dress. You saved up and paid for the dress, and now she wants you to pay, essentially, for another dress. 
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

This.