So I work about 7:30-4 right now, H works 8-5. He's home by 5:30, we eat dinner, go for a family walk, etc. H also has over $20k in debt that he is responsible for paying down. This was the stuff I wasn't aware of pre-marriage, and he is paying it on his own. It is accruing some interest, thankfully not much, and he's able to pay about 1k a month off. I am making my own car payments, too. We're still dumping some in savings, but aren't able to really go out as much and do as many trips as we'd like, and we are on a strict budget for the day-to-day things (like groceries.)
I really pushed H to get a part time job to expedite the payments so we could start saving faster for a home and for my grad school (he's used to crazy long workdays from his last job, so that won't be much of an issue.) He just now found out he got one and, like a femaly, I am now sad. I love that we have so much time in the evening and on the weekends together, and I want to keep that time. But do I need to push those feelings aside to be realistic and get the debt paid down, and get us back on storing money for house and grad school (which I HAVE TO start in the next four years, before my GMAT results expire) track? Or do I accept that we will be paying rent for longer but hey, at least we have time together?
I need sage words or wisdom from people wiser than me
(which is all of you, hah!)