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amorrison340amorrison340 member
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Some background: My dad is not close at all with his side of the family.  They don't really get along and I could count the times I have seen any of them on one hand.  Everyone is totally okay with this, but now it has but me in a difficult situation.  My aunt on that side of the family was sent a save the date, as she was the only one my dad asked to have invited.  No problem!  I was happy to do it, since it was asking so little.  However, she sent me back an email congratulating me, and asking if I would also invite her grown children and their spouses.  I really don't have room on my guest list, since I am planning a small wedding, exactly as I wanted.  And I barely know them.  I wasn't expecting this since it is literally the first time I have had contact with her in almost 10 years.  How do I tell her "no" without being rude?  
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    kmbryant2413kmbryant2413 member
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    In Response to Re: Family question:
    [QUOTE]You just tell her you are having a small wedding and can't accommodate additional guests, and that you look forward to seeing her.
    Posted by scribe95[/QUOTE]

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    MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    I'm with PP's.
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    You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.

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    gmcr78gmcr78 member
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    Ditto to PPs. Email her back and say "unfortunately, we are unable to accomodate any add'l guests at the wedding.  I look forward to seeing you", and leave it at that.  I wouldn't give her any reasons why, because that leaves you open to arguments and suggestions.  For example: "Sorry Auntie, we're on a limited budget, so we can't accomodate any other guests".  "Oh, then in that case, Niece, I'm happy to pay for their plates."
    See what I mean?  Just firmly and politely respond with a no.
    My sister had to deal with this kind of shenanigans.  Most of the advice I gave her was thanks to my TK knowledge. :)
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    mc4dj13mc4dj13 member
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    I hope that blows over well with your aunt- people get touchy when you turn them down. Honestly, a small intimate wedding with people you actually know and have a relationship with is the best and the most difficult at times because everyone wants to make the cut. I am having a hard time keeping it under 55 personally for my wedding in November. If that's all you can afford then so be it.

    Good luck.
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