Ok so this is a long story, I'll try to condense it as much as possible. My FI and I have been engaged for a year and a half now. Our wedding is June 1. We booked everything a year in advance and we are just tying together a few loose ends. Back in Oct. my Mother discovered that my Father had been unfaithful. It ended with my Father leaving my Mother for this woman he had been seeing. Their divorce will be finalized before the wedding date. This impacted the whole family significantly, but my FI and I didn't want this to hold back our wedding since we had been planning this for a year at the time. My Father and Mother have reconciled and can "get along". So the drama isn’t centralized in my family. The reason there is possible drama is that my Father was the pastor at my church before his affair. Being a pastor’s daughter means that allot of the friends invited to the wedding are church members. My father lost his job because of the affair. Many of my guests feel hurt by his actions and feel that he betrayed the church. Religion aside, there have already been issues with verbal attacks from family and friends towards my father. Even my FILs are upset over his actions, to the point of hysterical outbursts. I would think that seven months after everything happened people would have calmed down. I won’t exclude my father from the wedding. So how to I politely ask people to set aside their differences, ignore their anger, and grin and bare a few hours with someone? Or should I just prepare for the worst?