Too Few Guests...Who to Invite?

Ambergeddon

My fiancé doesn’t have any family and I have a very, very small one (4 people, 6 if the singles bring dates).  Our group of friends is also relatively small.  In all, our “A” list would be about 24 -28 people, depending on who brings dates.

 

Our “B” list is about 38 people and consists of people I haven’t seen since high school (I’m 31).  Some of these people were VERY good friends of mine back then and it’s just life that’s kept us from keeping in touch.  There are also a couple of his friends that he hasn’t spoken to in 3+ years, but he was in their wedding.  Is it too weird to invite them?

 

Budget isn’t an issue given the fact that we have so few guests as it is and we’re financially stable.  We just want to have a fun wedding with a lot of people around.  We don’t care about the gifts & whatnot, but I worry that people will assume we’re inviting them for that reason.

AllieBear725

Why would you want to have a wedding with people you haven't seen in so long? Especially if you feel they will assume you're only inviting them for gifts? Invite your closest friends and family and have a great time with them. No need for a big wedding with tons of guests. 

AddieCake

We only invited people who are part of our lives on a regular basis. I see no reason to invite people you don't even keep in touch with. In fact, I'd find it odd if someone who doesn't keep in touch with me regularly suddenly invited me to his or her wedding. 

Ven&Radio

I'm jealous that your guest list is so small!  I would stick with the guest list you have and show them a wonderful time. 

LiLe422

In Response to Re: Too Few Guests...Who to Invite?:
[QUOTE]I'm jealous that your guest list is so small!  I would stick with the guest list you have and show them a wonderful time. 
Posted by Ven&Radio[/QUOTE]

^^All of this^^

QueerFemme

In Response to Too Few Guests...Who to Invite?:
[QUOTE]My fiancé doesn’t have any family and I have a very, very small one (4 people, 6 if the singles bring dates).  Our group of friends is also relatively small.  In all, our “A” list would be about 24 -28 people, depending on who brings dates.   Our “B” list is about 38 people and consists of people I haven’t seen since high school (I’m 31).  Some of these people were VERY good friends of mine back then and it’s just life that’s kept us from keeping in touch.  There are also a couple of his friends that he hasn’t spoken to in 3+ years, but he was in their wedding.  Is it too weird to invite them?   Budget isn’t an issue given the fact that we have so few guests as it is and we’re financially stable.  We just want to have a fun wedding with a lot of people around.  We don’t care about the gifts & whatnot, but I worry that people will assume we’re inviting them for that reason.
Posted by Ambergeddon[/QUOTE]

It would be very weird to invite people you haven't seen or spoken to in over 3 years. It would be SUPER weird to invite people you havent' seen since you were in high school... we are talking 14+ years... that would be odd. 

Invite people you see and talk to regularly.  If you want to invite coworkers, you can do that.  A general rule of thumb that I use is, if I haven't seen you, spoken to you, or communicated with you in some way in the past year, I don't invite you.

MoxieMickie

With that small a wedding, it would look weird to invite people you haven't been close to in years. I do sympathize, since a small wedding can be just as much hassle to plan and then has the risk of having a sedate vibe, which you might not want.

tiffanyrenee08

I WANTED  a small wedding.. but with my family being as excited as they are, people I haven't seen in years are all of a sudden invited.. I wish it was small and personal.. You are the lucky one!