So come to find out that my SIL may be preventing my brother from helping my mother, who has stage IV ovarian cancer from getting to my wedding, which she is desperate to attend but cannot really drive herself to.
Backstory - I live in Ohio and have for most of my adult life (18 years), my mother, brother, and everyone else live in central Illinois.
So it seems that my SIL is holding a grudge because when her mother died I didnt send a card, or call, or send a text. However, when her mother died, I wasn't really talking to my brother or my mom for a number of reasons which really dont need to be discussed, as well as at the same time, it was during the collapse of my first marriage, and my MIL from my first marriage died as well, so I was really dealing with a lot of issues of my own, on my own without a lot of family support. So while I vaguely knew that her mom had died, it really was only a blip on my radar. I have can probably count on my two hands the number of times that I have actually spent more than 30 minute with my SIL.
My mom expressed to me that she really wants my brother to help her get to the wedding, instead of spending an exhorbiant (sp?) amount of a plane ticket, with a number of layovers, but the SIL is still holding a grudge over something that my mom has tried to tell her that is not my normal self and that I had a lot going on in my own life? And that my SIL doesnt even know me, so how can she judge me?