Events but no Bridal Party?

onlinebanker12

My fiancee and I have planned a 50-60 person destination wedding, and have decided not to have a bridal party. 

We both have friends, however, who are invited to the wedding (and even some who aren't - and they completely understand and say they're ok that they're not), who want to throw some of the more traditional events, like a bachelor and bachelorette parties, and maybe also an engagement party...

We weren't planning on asking anyone to do this since we aren't having a bridal party, but can we accept these gestures or should we turn everyone down politely?

kmbryant2413

You can accept them if you'd like, with the simple rule that everyone that is invited to the pre-wedding parties, MUST be invited to the wedding.

Maggie0829

Anyone can throw pre-wedding parties, not just those involved in the bridal party.

But like kmbryant said, only those invited to the wedding can ben invited to the pre-wedding parties.

TiaTea

In Response to Re: Events but no Bridal Party?:
[QUOTE]Anyone who wants to can offer to host a pre-wedding party. ....
...  The only rule for the guest list is that everyone invited must be invited to the actual wedding. 
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

What if the host of the party is not invited to the wedding?
For example, everybody knows that it will be a small immediate family only, destination wedding. The friends are not invited , but decide to host a pre-wedding party ( shower , whatever) ?

kefryar

Maybe etiqutte-wise, you should invite all those invited to parties to your wedding, but my fiance threw his friend a bachelor party and was not invited to the wedding. They had a very small wedding on a mountain and only invited family-no friends. His fiance asked mine to throw a party, and he accepted. He was not upset with this-it was understood that we were not invited to the wedding but he still wanted to. Long story short, I think that if this is something they want to do for you guys, knowing that they aren't invited to the wedding, it's fine. It depends on the people.

Personally, I would not offer to throw a party for someone who's wedding i was not even invited to, but if they are offering, I feel like it would be almost rude to decline. Sounds to me like they want to celebrate with you, especially since some of them won't be able to on your day.