To cut a cake, or not? That is the question...

FutureMrsReyna

I have personally felt that cutting the cake was a waste of time. I enjoy eating it of couse but is it really necessary to tell everyone, "hey, stop what you're doing and look at me and my new husband cut a cake"?

The weddings I have been to, the newlyweds have literally cut the music and asked people to not go away. It's a very sweent moment and I love the fact that the couple are enjoying it, but it always seems like too much of a hassle and that the couple is pretty oblivious to the people (sometimes hundreds) around them watching because this is a moment for them, not everyone else. I've been the MOH several time and have been asked to be front and center with the B&G to assist with anything and there has always been confusion and too many people crowding around for pictures. It just seem to me an event that should take 5 minutes, turns into 20-30.

Maybe it's just my luck with cake cuttings that has turned me off to the idea. Is there any real meaning to the cake cutting aside from letting everyone know it is now time for the cake to be served and a photo op? Is it more of personal taste?

We thought about doing the whole cupcake scenario but I wanted to serve them on plates with forks and the FI wants to just hand them out like that or have people come and get thier own. I wouldnt mind scrapping the whole cake aspect and just having a dessert station and letting guests pick and choose from an assortment of sweets.

Thoughts?

FutureMrsReyna

Thank you @Sleeper2013 I was hoping that I wasnt alone on that though.

JoanE2012

FutureMrsReyna said:

I have personally felt that cutting the cake was a waste of time. I enjoy eating it of couse but is it really necessary to tell everyone, "hey, stop what you're doing and look at me and my new husband cut a cake"?

The weddings I have been to, the newlyweds have literally cut the music and asked people to not go away. It's a very sweent moment and I love the fact that the couple are enjoying it, but it always seems like too much of a hassle and that the couple is pretty oblivious to the people (sometimes hundreds) around them watching because this is a moment for them, not everyone else. I've been the MOH several time and have been asked to be front and center with the B&G to assist with anything and there has always been confusion and too many people crowding around for pictures. It just seem to me an event that should take 5 minutes, turns into 20-30.

Maybe it's just my luck with cake cuttings that has turned me off to the idea. Is there any real meaning to the cake cutting aside from letting everyone know it is now time for the cake to be served and a photo op? Is it more of personal taste?

We thought about doing the whole cupcake scenario but I wanted to serve them on plates with forks and the FI wants to just hand them out like that or have people come and get thier own. I wouldnt mind scrapping the whole cake aspect and just having a dessert station and letting guests pick and choose from an assortment of sweets.

Thoughts?

We did a cake cutting.  Took all of a whopping 5 minutes.  Definitely didn't take 20-30 minutes. And no one from the bridal party had to be front and center with us.  I like the photos we got (especially because I loved our cake!), so I'm glad we didn't skip it.  That said, if you don't care, don't have it!  It's definitely not a requirement.

AddieCake

We didn't have everything stop. I don't think most of our guests even knew we were cutting the cake. We did it, my dad gave his toast, and I yelled, "Cupcakes!" in my usual way when there are cupcakes to be had. You don't have to make a big production of it.

Maggie0829

We cut our cake but it was a spur of the moment decision.  We had said from the beginning that we weren't going to cut the cake but then a guest asked if they could have a cupcake because they didn't want to grab one before we cut the cake.  H and I grabbed our photog and ran over, did the usual cut and feed and that was that.  No big production and no spotlight moment.  Heck our parents had no idea we were doing it and only those near the cake table saw us.

FutureMrsReyna

@Joan @Addie & @Maggie ,

Thank's ladies. I never thought that the cake cutting should take so long in my experiences...and that the whole room needed to be focused on the couple. But I have to admit, as much as I love my girlfriends...they definitely stressed that it was thier day and all eyes should be in them every minute. A cute cupcake tower sounds about the best idea right now since we're pretty low key.

Thanks again.

FutureMrsReyna

@Stage

Thank you so much...to be honest, I never thought of doing the at the beginning. Thats exactly what I didnt want, was to mess with the flow of the party. I've been to too many weddings where every 30 minutes everything stopped for...cake cutting...garter tossing...slideshows...dance performances...

When I was the MOH in 2 weddings, I literally stood there at one to basically smile and clap, I felt kind of awkward being that I was in most of the pictures right in the background with the BM, the second time I was a MOH, they asked me and the BM to hand them the knife and server so they could cut the cake, then hold the plate while they served eachother thier cake...then tiddy up the cake table after everything was done so that it wasnt and eye sore.....

The FI and I really just want to enjoy the night, and try and cut down the inturruptions. The toasts and mother/son dance are the most important events to us at this point..

Thank you so much for your input.