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My turn to share a headshaking post from Facebook.

A former classmate of mine from undergrad got engaged shortly after I did, early last year.  Back in November, they just "couldn't wait any longer" and got married at a private ceremony.  She changed her name and everything, but said that they would still do the big reception in the spring.  I congratulated her at the time and hoped she would do the classier thing and just have a party to celebrate on the original wedding day.  Apparently my hopes were too high.  I saw this on my feed this morning:

"Almost 6 months ago I made a promise to spend the rest of my life with my soulmate in a perfect intimate moment and today I get to make that promise again in front of some of our closest friends and family. I couldn't be happier!"

Seriously? Less than six months later and you still fill the need to saw your vows again.  Honestly, I think she's deluding herself if she thinks this time is going to be as special or that people aren't going to be privately miffed that they missed the real wedding.  At least she's honest with everyone and isn't pretending they aren't already married.

Just rubs me the wrong way.  Something about making such a big show of the private ceremony back in November (complete with pictures) and now having a repeat ceremony seems AW to the extreme.
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    Agreed. If they already had something planned for less than six months away, I can't imagine why they couldn't wait just a little longer to make it official. But you're right, at least the do-over was on the up-and-up, I guess...
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    rajahmdrajahmd member
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    Just feels iffy, right? Glad someone agrees with me.  Drives me nuts everytime I see a status about her upcoming "wedding" on Facebook. She's been putting up status about getting ready for it for the past several weeks.  It's ridiculous.  
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    Ugh. I hope people aren't feeding into it too much. I just can't see myself "liking" something like that and can't see why anyone else would.

    Also, I am both entertained and saddened by your disclaimer! Lol, I don't know how long it's been there underneath your STD, but I just noticed it.
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    rajahmdrajahmd member
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    Oh, she gets lots of likes, which is probably why she keeps posting about it.  The post this morning has well over 25 likes.  Which probably just irritates me more.  I couldn't bring myself to like her post this morning either.

    And haha, thanks! It's been there for awhile.  I put it there because you can't read the disclaimer on the STD because it's too small.  And yes, it's a shame there won't be any time travel.  If FI has his way though, there might just be a Delorean there. Wink
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    kerbohlkerbohl member
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    I second the disbelief that she planned something six months later . . . why?  I'm so confused - six months isn't that long to wait.  I just don't understand.  There's this little thing called "patience". . .

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    kerbohlkerbohl member
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    That is why I rarely post status updates on Facebook - and when I do it is never about how I am feeling.  If I thought people cared, I would have a face to face chat.  I don't understand why people think so many socially unacceptable things are okay the second they are on a computer screen.  It's mind-boggling.  Though it is amusing when criminals have status updates about their illegal activity and then get caught.

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    OtterJOtterJ member
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    I don't think she's doing anything wrong.  2 or 3 months closer to the wedding, I wish I had done the same thing.  I wish we had gotten married right away so that we could start our life together, and then just thrown a "wedding party" reception-type thing celebration later on for the extended family and friends.  Leading up to the wedding, I felt like planning consumed us, and between work and planning, we had some - but not nearly enough "us" time.  Being married already and living together would have made it easier to juggle "us" and party planning.  Plus, there would have been less pressure for planning the perfect party/vow exchange later on, because we would already be married! 

    The people that are "liking" her posts, are probably genuinely happy for her, her marriage, and her celebration of their vows with friends.  If you're not happy for her, I think it would be best for you to just temporarily hide her posts from your news feed. 

    Her marriage, her wedding, her celebration party - it's all hers (and her husband's).  It benefits no one for you to be bitter or judgemental about it. 

    On a side note, there is always a small possibility that she's doing it this way because she is, or they thought she was, pregnant. 
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