My FI and I are getting married in my hometown of Mechanicsburg,PA but we currently live right outside of Altoona, PA, approx 3 hours away. The weekend we are getting married is the weekend of the Carlisle Car Show and if anyone knows anything about that they know how incredibly difficult it is to get a room at the last minute. So with all that said, I have sent out some RSVP's approx 5 months in advance to those who live in the Altoona, PA area in the event that they want to come and need a room. I included a little note explaning why we sent the out so soon. We are also having a casual wedding so no mailing of responses is required, just a phone call or message me on Facebook will do. I guess where my issue comes in is we invited a majority of my FI family including his brother, mother and aunts and uncles. I have only heard from his mother and brother of whom the brother won't come for other immature reasons, but we heard from the mother that the rest of the family can't be bothered to plan that far in advance. Am I asking to much for someone to just pick up the phone and say I'm sorry we won't be able to make it? I really wasn't expecting to hear it from a third party who really didn't want to be involved in the first place.