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When to pick a date?

SoontobeMrsNytes_22973232SoontobeMrsNytes_22973232
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My FI and I have been engaged just 1 week today. All week he and I have been bombarded with "So, when's the big day questions?". I've been trying to take the comic route by answering The big day was this past Sunday when he asked me to be his wife! Neither of us are really ready to jump head first into wedding planning, we both want to enjoy this stage of our relationship for awhile. But, when I talked to him about it the other day, he says he doesn't want to talk about wedding planning at all right now. I agree with him, but I was still a little hurt that he doesn't even want to talk to me about it. Should I be concerned, or let it go?
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Let it go for now and just enjoy your engagement for a bit. Congratulations!
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
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    Definitely don't be concerned! That's such a normal, typical reaction for most grooms-to-be. My fiance was adament when he first asked me that we just enjoy being engaged for now- although he did have a general idea of when he wanted the wedding to be- (he said next fall, Sept or Oct- we picked the date together after we started venue shopping and asked our venue what they had available.)
    Anyway, when friends or family ask you when the big day is just tell them that you haven't decided yet and you are taking some time before you start wedding planning. I'm sure you'll both be ready to start planning soon. He probably feels like once you start it's going to open up the whole wedding-planning madness- and he's probably right. lol. Enjoy this time. Tell your fiance that you are excited for when he's ready to start wedding planning. There's no rush, but you are excited for big milestones like deciding on a date, for example. Tell him to let you know when he's ready to start having those discussions and reassure him that you want to take the planning process one step at a time!
    Congrats, by the way! 
    "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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  • RaeH42_2571267RaeH42_2571267
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    I was engaged not even 2 hours and was having people asking me when the big day was. Craziness! Enjoy being engaged and this time you guys have together :) Congrats!
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  • talors511talors511
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    [QUOTE]I was engaged not even 2 hours and was having people asking me when the big day was. Craziness! Enjoy being engaged and this time you guys have together :) Congrats!
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    congrats and enjoy your engagements. 
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  • ARM92ARM92 member
    10 Comments First Anniversary
    When we bought our ring we were asked by the sales associate. We felt silly looking at each other and just saying "uhhh we dont know...."

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  • stephie0612stephie0612 member
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    Nothing to be worried about. My FI and I sat down for at least 2 hours talking right after he proposed and I asked him around when did he want to get married and told me like in a year a half or two. I was perfectly fine with that but as soon as I started getting bombarded with friends referring us to wedding planners, venues, ect... we were just too excited and started planning for a March 2014 wedding a month after we got engaged. Of course, we agreed on the date together :) Who knows, your FI might get worked up by all the excitement before you know it.
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  • FriskypuppysFriskypuppys member
    10 Comments First Anniversary
    It may be that he's just feeling bombarded and needs to recoup.  I'm on my third day of my engagement and yesterday I was just done with the I want to see your rings, when's the date, invite me's etc.  So I backed off and just enjoyed my fiance and we didn't talk at all about the wedding.  It was exactly what I needed and now today I'm ready to jump in again. 
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