Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation

krismong_12385106

Hi everyone - I am throwing a Stock the Bar co-ed bridal for my friend and I am getting tripped up on the wording. My main concern is making sure that people understand exactly WHAT it is - that they should get something bar/drink themed from the registry and bring a bottle of alcohol, but I know it's tacky to make any kind of nod to a registry in an invite.

Any thoughts on how this might be done or should I assume that people will put it together themselves?

QueerFemme

In Response to Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation:
[QUOTE]Hi everyone - I am throwing a Stock the Bar co-ed bridal for my friend and I am getting tripped up on the wording. My main concern is making sure that people understand exactly WHAT it is - that they should get something bar/drink themed from the registry and bring a bottle of alcohol, but I know it's tacky to make any kind of nod to a registry in an invite. Any thoughts on how this might be done or should I assume that people will put it together themselves?
Posted by krismong[/QUOTE]


You should assume that this is a rude event, and rethink your plans all together.  If you are hosting a shower, you can host a shower. But, stock the bar parties are rude.

QueerFemme

In Response to Re: Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation:
[QUOTE]I have never heard of this. Is this a party where you bring booze for the wedding?
Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

that's the only time I've ever heard of these.  Basically, guests bring liquor to serve at the upcoming wedding.

r&c14

I'm glad I waited to post until after a couple of others posted because I wasn't sure about it. I know that you typically incude registy info with bridal showers, right? But I didn't know about this kind of party because the only party like this I went to was a housewarming party and we were stocking the homeowners bar.

kerbohl

I guess it is just a themed shower?  I've heard mention of them in bridal magazines/books, but I don't think guests appreciate being told what to buy for anything.  Unless it is a cooking themed shower, because aunts seem to love buying cooking supplies, in my experience.  I would maybe rethink this theme.  Maybe expand it to "stock the pantry" to include other kinds of gifts? 

brielleinlove

I strongly dislike themed showers.  I do not like having to bring a specific type of gift because I have certain gifts that I like to give.  Underwear, sheets, and alcohol aren't among them.  I would rethink this shower, particularly if you are inviting the bride's family members.  You have no idea what each member's attitudes toward alcohol might be.

AddieCake

In Response to Re:Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation: No, it's to stock the couples personal bar. I don't personally mind the idea, but think it verges on the etiquette line. It's really no different than round the clock showers, diaper showers, or lingerie showers.
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]
This.  I find them kind of odd, but it really is no different than a themed shower. 

QueerFemme

Hmmmm. If it is to stock their personal bar, then I guess its not as tacky. I would have them do a small seperate registry somewhere and only register for bar related things.

[Deleted User]

tacky or not tacky aside, how do people know what to bring? You could end up with 15 bottles of vodka and nothing else. 

AJG456

i threw one when my friend got married. it was definitely to stock their personal bar. i just ordered invites online that already had cute wording. i wouldn't try to be too specific though (bar item and bottle of alcohol) we had people bring one or the other or both. as for how you dont end up with 15 bottles of the same thing i guess thats a possibility at any shower. but the attendees usually know the bride and groom and what they like, so at the one i hosted the groom got a bottle of his favorite scotch, the bride got a few bottles of her favorite type of wine etc  plus bar glasses and accessories  it was really fun!

tammym1001

I found this online and thought it was cute:

He loves whiskey and she loves wine
They also love barware so fine.
So bring some liquor, or even beer
as we wish them a lifetime of happiness and cheer.
Join us for a stock the bar shower for:

Info here

NYCMercedes

In Response to Re: Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation:
[QUOTE]tacky or not tacky aside, how do people know what to bring? You could end up with 15 bottles of vodka and nothing else. 
Posted by trinitygc[/QUOTE]

There's a problem with fifteen bottles of vodka? OP, people shouldn't be told what to bring or asked to bring both. Expensive bar glasses or even a nice mixer would be enough, without the spirits.

emeejeeayen

Just use bar imagery on the invite and don't make any specific mention of it. Then have the couple make a registry devoted to barware items. I think that people will catch on. 

Jen4948

It seems to me like another themed shower.

The one caveat is to make sure nobody invited has any kind of alcohol-related issue (non-drinker, alcoholic, etc.).

Ella and Pedro

I think I'll do this for my once-and-future baby shower.

QueerFemme

How much do people drink at home that they really need a shower to stock a personal home bar?

QueerFemme

In Response to Re:Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Wording for Stock the Bar Invitation:How much do people drink at home that they really need a shower to stock a personal home bar? Posted by cmgilpin Wow. Judge much? Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE] Uh. Yeah. And I have no problem admitting that. I honestly cannot imagine drinking so much that I would want my shower guests bringing exclusively liquor. Even a small shower with 20 or so invitations. Seriously, who has 20 bottles of liquor at their house unless they are running a pop up bar out of their basement or something.?

QueerFemme

How many of those over 20 are wine?