A few Invitation questions!

sydneyjulia

We're having a super small wedding, our guest list is under 70 people. My issues is, a good amount of the groom's friends (and a couple of my family members) are with different partners every week. Our 70 people are only family and close friends and I want to keep it that way. How do I make it clear that I want only those invited to attend without sounding snotty (not that I have a major issue with that since it is my wedding but you know what I mean!)?
Also, our wedding is outdoors in late August, it's a very casual ceremony, so how do I say "no suits, ties, or formal dresses"?
I feel like I should just make a wedding facebook page and post my list of "rules", but that's probably not acceptable lol

AddieCake

In Response to A few Invitation questions!:
[QUOTE]We're having a super small wedding, our guest list is under 70 people. My issues is, a good amount of the groom's friends (and a couple of my family members) are with different partners every week. Our 70 people are only family and close friends and I want to keep it that way. How do I make it clear that I want only those invited to attend without sounding snotty (not that I have a major issue with that since it is my wedding but you know what I mean!)? Also, our wedding is outdoors in late August, it's a very casual ceremony, so how do I say "no suits, ties, or formal dresses"? I feel like I should just make a wedding facebook page and post my list of "rules", but that's probably not acceptable lol
Posted by sydneyjulia[/QUOTE]
You address your invitations only to the people invited. However, if any of those people are with someone they consider a boyfriend or girlfriend at the time your invitations go out, you need to invite their SOs and include the name of the SO on the invitation. 

As for dress, you don't tell people how to dress. If you want to pass along that it's casual and people can wear more casual clothing, do that via word of mouth. 

Avoid any kind of wedding FB page, and also stop thinking of yourself as having "rules."  It's a wedding, not a game show. People will be very put off if you start barking orders at them. 

DianaMick1215

you can have a wedding website and instead of saying "No suits, no ties" just put"casual attire"

sydneyjulia

Ironically, me and the groom want the same thing for our wedding, so I think "couple-zilla" is more appropriate.
That being said, I don't feel bad at all about sounding "self-centered". I don't know what kind of shindigs you all have, but where I come from the wedding is NOT for the guests. It's a celebration of us, FOR us, and put on by us. Answer the question or don't, I don't need any further critiques regarding my personal character.

meg2marryshane

Getting back to your question...

We're doing this:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smih (outer envelope)

Mr. and Mrs. Smith (inner envelope)

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (Respond card - we're writing in the names and numbers)
We have reserved 2 seats in your honor)

My friend did this and had absolutely no confusion or phone calls.

Regarding the dress for the wedding, I would insert a card in with the invitations (possibly on the bottom of the Accommodations/Directions card) that says, "For additional wedding information, please visit our website at www.janeandjohnswedding.com.