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Is it ok to have a "no kids" policy at our wedding?

My fiance and I are throwing around the idea of having an "adults only" wedding reception.  Neither of us have children, or nieces/nephews.  There are a few cousins with kids, but we are not that close to them.  Our decision is based on two parts.  First, we don't like the idea of a bunch of kids running around everything while we are eating or during the ceremony and being disruptive.  Second, if we did allow children, that would add about 15 extra places for the reception, and we are trying to keep costs as low as possible being that we will be paying for most of the wedding ourselves.  I should mention that we would plan to have two kids there as the flower girl and ring bearer.  One is my fiance's baby sister, and the other is the child of a cousin that we do see regularly.  I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or start any family drama so I need some advice!  I thought one way to get around the awkwardness would be to sell it as a "night out" away from the kids-grab a babysitter, ditch the kids, and let loose.  This is not something that we have fully decided on, just something we're tossing around.  Any advice you have would be much appreciated!

Re: Is it ok to have a "no kids" policy at our wedding?

  • It is perfectly fine to only invite adults to your wedding.  It is not appropriate to put any kind of "NO KIDS ALLOWED" language on the invitation.  If John and Jane Doe have a child Jenny, address their invitation to Mr. & Mrs. John Doe.  If they RSVP for Jenny as well, call them up and say, "I am sorry for any confusion, but the invitation was only for you and Jane.  We are looking forward to seeing you."

    Do not try to "sell" your wedding as a night out away from the kids.  People will make up their own minds whether they want a night away from their children, and be prepared for declines from people who either a) don't want a night away from their children, or b) can't find appropriate childcare.
  • That is a very good point about the invitations and only addressing them to those invited.  Thank you!
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