I have been relatively calm through out the past, nearly two years, of planning. I have dealt with everyones opinions and both my mother and FMIL acting as if this is their wedding and not mine. I have accomidated people price points for dresses, and even adjusted if a bridesmaid didnt like a color or the dress in general. However, I am ready to completely lose it on the next person who decides that my opinions or choices do not matter.
Let me put a disclaimer in here that I do not particularly like my FMIL. She is extremely passive aggressive and whenever FI and I are with her she is always constantly touching him... like during dinner she we put her hand on his, or randomly come up and rub his back all the time. Its extremely odd for me to watch. She also seems to think she comes before me when it comes to FI and is constantly playing games with me.
First, I went to a wedding in November where the mothers of the wedding were in matching colors. I thought they looked AWESOME! So I told my mother and FMIL I would like them in the same color. My mother wanted chocolate, so that was going to be the color. My FMIL gave me a bit of a hard time so I asked my mother if burgundy would be ok. My FMIl also insisted on getting her dress before my mother. I went with my FMIL to look at dresses. She liked a certain dress that didnt come in brown OR Burgundy. She pulled out a swatch that it came in called merlot, this was completely and utterly purple. I told her then that I didnt not like the color and I would prefer her not to get the dress in purple bc my mother would never wear purple, i hate purple, and theres not a stitch of purple in the wedding. A few weeks later we were all out to dinner and she mentioned she ordered her dress. Shockingly, I said what did you get and she said the merlot dress. My reaction was "the purple dress?" and i just kept my mouth shut and went home pretty pissed.
Then I had my bridesmaid go out and buy the wrong shoe while my other bridesmaids bought the shoes already. So we changed the shoe and my moh couldnt find her reciept so i bought her the new shoe bc I felt bad and didnt want her to have to buy two freaking pairs of shoes. After that was done, I have two jr bridesmaids so i wanted to find shoe that matched in color, I found exactly 1 bc its a glittery gold shoe. It took me two days to find this match. i found it listed for 52.50, the bridesmaids shoes were 52.99. One of the jr bridesmaids mothers found the shoe for 75, and i guess at the time the bridesmaids shoe had gone on clearence for 27. She was upset bc the junior bridesmaid shoe was 75 and the bridesmaid shoe was 27..... except none of the girls paid 27 for the shoe, they paid 52.99. i think told her that and posted a link to her daughters shoe at 52.50 and I havent even heard back from her. I am so over arguing over a stupid shoe. Her daughter is not going to look right if she is the only one in different shoes.