Not to offend anyone...but I personally consider religion a disease. So having anyone other than a JOP perform our ceremony has never crossed my mind. My fiance and I live across the country from his incredibly Catholic family and while they know we don't belong to a church or openly practice a religion...I think they really believed that we were Catholic. My fiance is literally the most gentle soul on earth and it KILLED him when his parents found out and were absolutely livid. They said AND I QUOTE "a marriage ceremony with no mention of god should be considered null and void...it's an abomination." Luckily my parents could care less if a homeless person performed our ceremony as long as I was happy. But it truly kills me to break my future in-laws hearts...and they are contributing financially to this day so part of me feels obligated to somehow appease them? Any suggestions on how to break the news that I am absolutely unwilling to have any religion involved in my ceremony? HELPPPP