Okay, so now I know enough to be able to tell you the story ...
I get a phone call this morning from one of FI's uncle (whom I have never met). He's rsvp-ing yes to us (thank you for getting back to me!), and he wants to reserve a room at the lodge, but was told that we were reserving the rooms. So he called to say that he wanted one ...
Here's the problem:
The lodge accommodates 37 people, sleeping in every bed (even if they shared rooms). We were only accommodating bridal party there, since it's a private residence, and were providing a bus for all of the other guests (both pickup and drop off), so they didn't have to worry about DDs etc. FI's uncle wanted no part of this. He wanted a room (private) so that he could stay all night are party.
I spoke to the owner (FI's cousin), because she tried to warn me that the call was coming. When we were talking, she told me that other family members were also insisting that they were reserving rooms there too - leaving no room for the people WE wanted to put there.
FI is so disheartened; he wanted to get married at the lodge more than anything, but this stress in his family, made him decide that it wasn't worth it. So he spent all afternoon looking for another venue (with just over two and a half months to go). I told him that it didn't matter to me where we got married, just that we were husband and wife at the end of the day. If he still wanted to do it at the lodge, I would totally dust off my bitchy-pants and deal with the selfish people.
We lucked into a venue, but now have to notify everyone that the location has changed (because of a few selfish people), and revisit all of the plans we've made so far...