So I know that traditional etiquette is; "you don't invite people to pre-wedding festivities, who are not invited to the wedding itself." Well, I found out through another groomsmen, that my fiances best man has invited someone to attend FI's bachelor party who isn't on the guest list. He's a mutual friend of 4 guys who are going on his bachelor party, FI is included in that 4, but wasn't someone we even considered inviting to our wedding. I don't want to have FI have a talk with the best man, because his whole party is a surprise for him. He knows what days to take off from work, and that's about it. On the other side, I don't know how to not come off sounding rude or crazy if I were to talk to his best man about the etiquette of the situation. I know he's trying to put together a fun time, and I know FI is going to love what he's got planned, but the situation doesn't sit well with me. I'm not mad, just nervous/anxious. I'm not quite sure what to do. At this point, there are at least 2-3 other guys who are mutual friends with a few of the groomsmen and my FI who could possibly get asked between now and then, who I know we didn't plan on inviting to the wedding. We're getting up there in numbers, close to 200. I'm already pushing the limit of invitations that I have ordered. I ordered about 15 extra, but have needed to allocate 4 of them for family friends that I totally wasn't thinking of 5 months ago, when we put together our list.
