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fablove

We leave it 2 DAYS and are getting married Sunday and can you seriously believe the future mother in law and sister in law STILL I repeat, STILL DO NOT KNOW IF THEY ARE COMING?! Are you flippin kidding me people?? I have to give the final count to the restaurant today and knowing that, FI's mom called last night saying  (This is where it gets really good) they STILL DO NOT know if they are coming and if they take the bus (Greyhound) would he be able to drive them around (because they refuse to use the taxis) to find a hotel-ON A PACKED HOLIDAY WEEKEND!! AND taking them to the chapel and everywhere else...UH NO!! He told them NO...If you come without renting a car or by bus, we don't have time to be driving you around everywhere so you will have to take a taxi. AMAZES me that they have known about this for over 8 months and yet here they still are last minute!! I've emailed the sister hotel deals (back when they weren't sold out and cheap), I've given them the pricing for Greyhound, and even flights (which she's never flown but says she's too scared) Driving there she says she can't drive long distances (come on, I've got senior citizens driving themselves there)!! FI is highly annoyed and said he's over there last minute drama BS too. UGHHH I need to get my happy thoughts back and not let this aggravate me!

cet424

Oh no im so sorry you are having to deal with this! Is there maybe someone you could ask to help out if they need to go places or put them in charge of arranging a car/taxi to pick them up? sounds like they just want attention. if youve given them all the options you can i wouldnt worry about them anymore. you will be too busy to be messing around with them good luck!! congrats!

wrigleyville

Give the final count to the restaurant and don't count them since they haven't given you a firm "yes". Caterers always plan on 10% extra, for surprise shows, people who eat more, food mix-ups, food errors (burnt, etc), so you'll be okay as far as food is concerned. If they do show up, there'll be enough food. If they don't, then at least you didn't have to pay for them.

fablove

wrigleyville said:

Give the final count to the restaurant and don't count them since they haven't given you a firm "yes". Caterers always plan on 10% extra, for surprise shows, people who eat more, food mix-ups, food errors (burnt, etc), so you'll be okay as far as food is concerned. If they do show up, there'll be enough food. If they don't, then at least you didn't have to pay for them.

Yes, that's what I just did. I gave the restaurant the final count, not including them!

liljennygirl

Oh wow, i would lose it! you should not have to be worrying about how they are getting around Vegas! I would tell them straight up, that you and FI will be very dissappointed if you are both not there as this is a very special day for the two of you. There has been plenty of time to plan transportation and accomodations...figure it out yourselves!! Sorry but that annoys me..lol. Try not to let it get to you and enjoy your day in the end whatever they decide will probably be the best for everybody. 

thesepinkdays

So sorry fab! Good girl for not including them in your count!

vegasgroom

I'd probably guess no for them.  If they're that strapped for cash they're certainly not going to find anything reasonably priced with this little notice.  The bus may even be sold out for that matter.

Sorry you're having to deal with this.  We had one guest cancel on us with 24 hours notice, VIA FACEBOOK.  WTF?!  Who does that lol.

fablove

vegasgroom said:

I'd probably guess no for them.  If they're that strapped for cash they're certainly not going to find anything reasonably priced with this little notice.  The bus may even be sold out for that matter.

Sorry you're having to deal with this.  We had one guest cancel on us with 24 hours notice, VIA FACEBOOK.  WTF?!  Who does that lol.

Oh yeah that would piss me off!! They couldn't call?!

wrigleyville

Eek, VG. I was sick when my friends got married, so I called her the day before and said I was so sorry that I couldn't make it, but I didn't want to get them sick before their honeymoon. She was grateful for that.

I ended up adding the (estimated) cost of our plates to the check we sent them, so that lessened some of my guilt.

Em&MPatti

Take a deep breath and think only happy thoughts!  Your wedding/trip will be perfect.  It is really sad that they are not making it a priority to go to the wedding, but it is them who will be missing out.  As mad as I would be too, I would just have to tell myself (over and over bc easier said than done!) that this is the day that YOU have been planning for months and nothing will put a damper on it. 

 

Have fun!  I can't wait to see your reviews!

EmiliaC01

I would call her, or have your fiancé call, and politely say that you need to provide guest numbers to the restaurant today so you need to know today. If they cannot provide and answer then you are sorry but you are going to exclude them from the restaurant final count. That way whether they like it or not, they are aware of the consequences and cannot act surprised later.

CandCWedding2013

holy I would be livid! You just enjoy your wedding and forget about them! 

mbenoit03

OMG U GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!!! i cant believe you still are dealing with this, i'm sorry but you have enough on your mind right now, she shouldn't be causing all these issues. u r right in a every way u guys cannot treat her like your kid and accommodate and drive her everywhere its not possible you have enough going on as is being that its your WEDDING DAY. Just relax and have a great time, i wish you both a very happy day and many blessings in your future!!

blissing

Wow, that sounds really difficult!  Try to focus on that fact that whether they come or not, you will be getting married and in a few day's time it will be done and you can have fun, with or without them.  

FrankensteinsGirl

Ugh we had about 7 people total not show and either never tell us or  let us know the day or two before via text.  Bleh.

hishoney71412

Have they been hoping that if they hemmed and hawed over going that you and your FI would foot their bill just to have them there?

fablove

hishoney71412 said:

Have they been hoping that if they hemmed and hawed over going that you and your FI would foot their bill just to have them there?

Oh I think so! I told FI that months ago and he said he didn't think that was their issue but to me I think that's what they were trying to pull. NOW last night they called saying they are going! Whatevs!! I didn't add you guys to the final count so I'm over it lol We leave tomorrow I have enough on my mind to take care of!

sdg2502

Wow, I can't believe how selfish some people can be.  

I hope you are able to relax and enjoy yourself sooner rather than later, have a wonderful time in Vegas and a great wedding!

sunni96

That really sucks. I don't know why some family members have to act like that. I already have a few saying that they won't come if so and so is coming and blah, blah, blah. I'm like..really people. If they are going to act childish I don't want them there anyways and neither do you! Forget about them and enjoy your day!