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invitation complications!!!!

Okay so I'm having a problem with my invitations 
I was adopted at the age of 8 and have a complicated relationship with my birth mother she has been in and out of my life from birth until this past year which she has been a more permanent fixture. How do I begin my invitations? With just my adopted parents or with all three or possibly just my fiance and I? my adopted parents are paying for my dress and venue and my fiance and I for everything else. My problem is my birth mother will be upset if I dont put just her and my adopted parents will be upset if I dont put just them. I love them all even though I feel more strongly towards my adopted parents I don't want to hurt my birth mothers feeling either. What do I do?

Re: invitation complications!!!!

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    How about something general? Like:
    Together with their parents (families)
    Bride
    &
    Groom
    request the honor of your presence...

    This way, no one is singled out, no one is left out.
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    Thank you I could kick myself for not thinking of that.
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    Just an FYI, "honour of your presence" is used for weddings in churches; "pleasure of your company" is used for any wedding not held in a physical church building.
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    lemclane said:
    Just an FYI, "honour of your presence" is used for weddings in churches; "pleasure of your company" is used for any wedding not held in a physical church building.

    Just curious, why is that?

    After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!

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    If you and your parents don't care whether or not they are listed on the invitation and you're fine with "hosting" since you're paying for the vast majority of your wedding, you could leave all parents off entirely. It'd be nice to mention them in your program or something if you want to "publicly" thank them.
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    acove2006 said:


    lemclane said:

    Just an FYI, "honour of your presence" is used for weddings in churches; "pleasure of your company" is used for any wedding not held in a physical church building.


    Just curious, why is that?

    Because you can't technically invite people to a church; it's a public space that you're using. That's also why, technically, ANYONE can attend a wedding in a church building. Churches are open to the public. But anything in a private space that you can invite people into gets the second wording; there, you are actually the host and you could (theoretically) bar admission to someone. It's archaic, and few people know the rule, but it's still the rule.

    Anniversary

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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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    meggiemo said:
    How about something general? Like:
    Together with their parents (families)
    Bride
    &
    Groom
    request the honor of your presence...

    This way, no one is singled out, no one is left out.
    Brilliant!
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