Help me find diplomatic words for a bossy person

crysspears

Todays frustration. and some background.
 we  finally decided to invite children, but drew the line at 2nd cousins. So we allowed 1st cousins and OOT guests to bring kids. Our kid list with 1st/2nd cousins and OOT kids was something crazy like 30. So without 2nd cousins, we were at about 15 give or take 2 or 3. 
Well, I get an RSVP card back from one of my cousins, shes is the eldest cousin and reflects my crazy grandma. I think shes like 34 or something, has two kids 11+14? (I honestly couldnt tell you). I addressed my invite to her properly.. Just her and her husband. I get her card back, and it says Cousin+Husband +3 kids.. THREE?! you only have two children, who is this 3rd kid that also wasnt invited?! 
Might I add, this is the same cousin that flipped out and had a fit when I had my MOH send her bridal shower invite to her moms house because at the time, I didnt have her address or any way to get in contact with her (shower invites went out earrrlyy). 
Anyway, the point of this is to ask how to handle this situation with a crazy attention wanting cousin. 

crysspears

hahah I love it! I might call after a couple shots this weekend, while drinking my 3rd or 4th cup of wine (; I hate talking on the phone, especially to people I dont see/ speak to often (only at family functions and then its only a word or two) .. .guess I gotta put those big girl panties on and get ready for the backlash from her telling her mom, her mom telling my grandma, and my grandma (whos already mad at me) to yell at me! woo 

kmmssg

EllaYoung said:

I am going to apply @Harry87 rule to everything for the next two and a half weeks.

I'm going to apply the @Harry87 rule to everything for the rest of my life. Brilliant Harry - smashingly brilliant.  I better join a wine club.

NOLAbridealmost

Harry87 said:

Before you call her and remind her, politely, that the invite is only for her and her husband, you open a bottle of wine. You savor one glass, and then you stare at that bottle throughout the duration of your phone call, promising yourself that if you handle the call diplomatically you get to have all the wine you want.

Love this. "I am so sorry for any confusion, but we cannot accommodate the kids. We hope you and H can still make it, but if you need some time to figure things out, we understand, Just let us know by RSVP date."

harper0813

Maybe one of her children is an indigo child?

In all seriousness, what NOLA wrote is perfect. And repeat "I'm sorry, but we cannot accommodate any children," as necessary if cousin acts difficult. Good luck!

southernbelle0915

zoberg said:

Maybe one of her children is an indigo child? In all seriousness, what NOLA wrote is perfect. And repeat "I'm sorry, but we cannot accommodate any children," as necessary if cousin acts difficult. Good luck!

In which case she should be allowed to bring her boyfriend/partner. Maybe that's the extra child on the list.....

d2va

zoberg said:

Maybe one of her children is an indigo child? In all seriousness, what NOLA wrote is perfect. And repeat "I'm sorry, but we cannot accommodate any children," as necessary if cousin acts difficult. Good luck!

I was going to say this. LOL  

Teddy917

What's an "indigo child"?

misshart00

Teddy917 said:

What's an "indigo child"?

A spoiled brat, but their parents are oblivious to it because their child is special.

musicalcanadianbride

You missed an excellent thread about "indigo children". I think it was called "Rude RSVP" or something... 

I love the wine solution! I might start using that a lot in the next two months. :-)

crysspears

Oh they arent those kinda kids.. so im still left wondering who the 3rd is.. 

 

As for the wine issue, (solution) Im just drinking straight out the bottle of Yellow tail mosocato like its gatorade.. 

Sorry, not sorry. 

chaiteachick

"Like it's gatorade." 

xD