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bridal shower

My aunt's are planning my bridal shower. FI and I live in L.A. along with my whole extended family, and his whole family, my parents and most of our friends who are invited and wp lives back east. The shower will be here in L.A., my mom is flying in for the while month before the wedding and will also be able to make it. my aunt asked me who I wanted to invite. I know only people invited to the wedding can be invited so I said family members and gave her the names of a few friends we are inviting who are also from L.A. my moh said she wanted me to send invites to all the bridesmaids because they are planning on sending me something for the shower. When I told my aunt this she asked about FI side of the family. She thinks they will be offended, as will the rest of our friends from back east, if we don't invite them as well. What do I do? It seems gift grabby to me to send an invitation to a bridal shower I know they wont attend, but I don't want to offend anyone. Please help she wants addresses tonight because the shower is june 22nd and the wedding is july 13.
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Re: bridal shower

  • I'd maybe send one to your FI's mother, but that would be it. I think it would come off as gift grabby. My FSIL got married locally, but her husband was from across the country and we didn't invite them to the shower. 
  • Thabks ladies. I thought it would seem gift grabby I juat didnt want to upset anyone.
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  • We're (well, my man of honour) is sending courtesy invites to my FMIL and FGMIL. I know they won't be able to come (they live about 1500km away) but I wanted them to know we would happily have them if they could, if that makes sense? I hadn't considered it being gift-grabby, damn.

    So I guess my advice is to limit the courtesy invites, lol.

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