No one to walk me down the aisle... HELP!

rtreuer

I am an only child (so no brothers), and both my mom and dad have passed away.  I have no close uncles or male cousins either.  I would prefer not to walk by myself, as the pain of the empty spot where my dad should be would be too much.  Does anyone have an ideas?

tracy_k

Awww, I'm sorry. That's got to be hard.

It doesn't have to be a man walking you down the aisle... do you have any close female relatives? A grandmother or aunt? Are you close with any of your friends' parents? You could have your best friend or MOH walk you down the aisle.

SparklyRing

I'm sorry Sweetie!
I am in the same boat as you, plus I'm having a destination wedding so I may only have about 25 guests.  My choices are SLIM!

I have a cousin that I am close to, so he could walk me down the isle....but as I thought about it, I came to the realization that I am truly alone in this world, except for FI and some friends naturally, and I don't just want the spot to be "filled" for the sake of having an escort.

A suggestion was given to me on another board and this is what we have decided on:

I will walk down the isle, alone, halfway, then stop.  My FI will then come and meet me, kiss me, and escort me for the rest of the walk.

I think its perfect, symbolic, and romantic in a way.

And for what it's worth, I told my MOH that it's her #1 priority to make sure I don't go there emotioanlly and become a hysterical mess at the wedding over my parents.  I will honor them in my own way, privately, at some point.  Still not sure how I will do that!  I am a Cry-er.....

mbcdefg

I would ask a female relative or friend that you are close to. It need not be a man.

Or walk in with your fiance. That's a lovely sentiment, and a lot of churches are now encouraging this option.

Or you and your FI can be seated in the front row before everyone arrives (or be at the door to greet guests as they walk in) and then stand when it's time to start, or come out of a side area or something and then proceed with the ceremony.

lalap69

What if you walked down the aisle with your MOH?  I figure your MOH is the closest person to you, so why not ask her to escort you?

kissamary

when my mom got remarried she didn't have anyone either, so she had her brother-in-law walk her down the aisle because he had been in her life the longest.

Lasairiona

Do you have a close friend willing to do this?

[Deleted User]

I'm sorry to hear about that. You and your FI could walk down the isle together or what about you FI's Dad? I am really close with my FFIL, so I know I would probably ask him or one of my uncles if I was in your situation.

2dBride

My wife and I just walked down the aisle together.  Or you could walk down with anyone you feel close to--MOH, female relative, close friend.

Traditions are helpful only to the extent they have meaning for us.  If one like having your father escort you is not going to work, then make up something that does work for you.  I can assure you that your guests are not going to be saying to themselves, "This wedding is terrible--the bride was walked won the aisle by someone other than a male relative!"

sky7563

I agree with many above...walk down with your fiance, or walk down 1/4 of the way by yourself and have your fiance walk down to get you and walk down the rest of the way with him.  This way the spot light is on you alone for a moment.  I was at a wedding where they did this and it was beautiful.  If you prefer someone else to walk you down...what about your closest relative (no matter what gender or relation), your closest family friend or friend, your FI's dad, brother, or best man.  I hope your post has helped!

JenPhil6212

How close are you to your future Father in law? If that is an option. If that isn't an option then I would say have you FI meet you half way.

sjnsjnsjn

We're walking in together, me and my guy.  We have come to the decision together, are approaching the commitment as equals, and it's the only thing that makes sense.  Maybe, due to your circumstances, it'd be a good idea for you too?

amwilli5

I don't know if you're close to any of your fiances relatives just for an alternative so you don't cry.  Originally my mom and uncle weren't able to make it to my wedding and I had spoken to my fiances grandfather and he said he would be honored to as he didn't have an daughters to walk down the aisle