Alrighty y'all, I need your help. Bitchiness to 10 please. You've been warned.
So, our wedding is in a little over 5 months. We set the date last January. When we first got engaged, FI's parents offered to host and plan the rehearsal dinner. They've even already looked at some restaurants (which is tricky because of some food allergies in my family, but that's another story for later). On top of our wedding this year, FI's sister graduates from high school in a couple of weeks and is starting college in August. We're both super proud of her. She did color guard (both fall and winter seasons) all during high school. She's super good at it. As such, she's planning on trying out for the color guard of the marching band at her college in the fall, and she'll most likely get in.
That's the background. Here's the problem. At the mother's day dinner our two families had together, FI's dad casually mentioned that FSIL's Homecoming is the same weekend as the wedding. They said their current plan is to go to the football game and homecoming festivities during the day on Saturday, the day before the wedding, and then hopefully get back in town for the rehearsal. They also admit they don't know what time the game or anything else is that day.
Now, I'm not concerned about them missing the wedding. I'm just kinda annoyed that it feels like FSIL is taking precedence over our wedding. I know the party line here is that brides get one day, but seriously, having both days of the weekend would be nice. I think I would be less upset if they weren't the ones hosting and planning the rehearsal dinner. How are they supposed to host it and prepare for it if they aren't going to be in town until right before? And what happens if the game isn't until later? I mean, even if the game starts right at noon and is over by 3pm, they would barely make it back to town by 5pm, which is the time we're looking at for the rehearsal and dinner. And since both parents are in the ceremony, it would be nice for them to be at the rehearsal so they know what to do the next day. Am I just freaking out for no reason? Am I overanalyzing this? Ugg. I feel like a selfish prick. But I can't help but feel like they're placing more importance on his sister's achievements and whatnot. Part of it might be annoyance due to the fact that his dad owes us money that we could use to pay for our wedding, but instead of paying us back they're throwing her a big graduation party and keep putting off paying us back.
I can't really vent anywhere else. FI is a laidback kinda guy and isn't worried about it. He's the type to just let things fall into place. I'm a planner type, and have anxiety issues, so I tend to overanalyze things. Who knows, maybe that's why I'm so frustrated too, because I feel like I'm the only one who's worried about it. FI's parents are too focused on FSIL and how exciting her first college homecoming is to be concerned about how it will affect our wedding weekend and FI isn't the type to worry. I know it'll work out in the end, but I feel like crap in the meantime.
Ok, now that I've vented and gotten all the icky feelings out, someone give me a virtual slap for me and put everything in perspective. Thanks in advance.