The RSVP date for our wedding was the 25th and I was waiting on one response from an old friend. This is a friend I've known since about 2000. We don't get to see each other often as we moved away from each other a couple of years ago, but she is someone that I love and trust, we always catch up right where we left off when we do get the chance to get together. I sent her an email and then left a voice mail asking if she and her fiancee were coming, and she never responded. She's been very hard to reach in the last few months in general, but I didn't think much of it.
It's important to note that she is in the midst of planning her own wedding right now. I'd heard very little about her wedding, the last I knew, they were having a private, family wedding on the beach the first weekend of June. I wasn't alarmed when I didn't get an invitation, because we don't see each other too often, and 'private family wedding' would not include me. No big deal.
After not getting a response from her, I got in touch with a mutual friend who sees her more often, and she said that 'E is just so frazzled right now with her wedding, she says she keeps meaning to get back to you and feels really badly.' She went on to say that 'She also feels really badly that she forgot to invite you to her wedding.' Excuse me? She 'forgot' to invite me to her wedding?
Evidently wedding planning has just consumed her to the point that she forgot to invite me. Yesterday I got a 'sorry we can't come to your wedding' text, and today, I got a wedding invitation via Evite. The wedding is June 9th. FI will be out of town and I have other conflicts, so I won't be able to go, but even if I could, I'm not sure I would. To say my feelings are hurt is an understatement. I'm going to be declining the invitation, but will likely send her a nice card to let them know I'm thinking of them on their day. Not really looking for advice here, just in shock over the whole thing, it's all quite strange and surreal from here in the cheap seats.