Kissing Ideas

janner13

What did you do at your reception to et the bride and groom to kiss?

[Deleted User]

People always do that awful, annoying clinking glass thing.  Brides and grooms tend to ignore them after the 5th time. Why can't they just kiss? I guess I never understood it. 

Maggie0829

Nothing is needed to get the bride and groom to kiss.  In addition, putting anything out, such as bells or getting the guests to sing to the couple are just annoying and ridiculous.  Why in the world would you need something to get the guests to kiss?  I am sure if they want to kiss they will do so voluntarily and whenever they want.

jmrose9112

I like the idea where you put a jar at your table and they put in a dollar for you to kiss. 1. You get to kiss your spouse and 2. It could add up and help towards your honeymoon expenses! 

manateehugger

I like the idea where you put a jar at your table and they put in a dollar for you to kiss. 1. You get to kiss your spouse and 2. It could add up and help towards your honeymoon expenses! 

Dear God, PLEASE do not do this. Never ever ever ask (or give the suggestion of asking) your guests to give you money. This is just as bad as the dollar dance. 

AddieCake

jmrose9112 said:

I like the idea where you put a jar at your table and they put in a dollar for you to kiss. 1. You get to kiss your spouse and 2. It could add up and help towards your honeymoon expenses! 

FFS, you do not ask people to pay you to perform at your wedding!

OP, kiss whenever the hell you want to and not when you don't want to. Why must everything be a game?

imimbles

jmrose9112 said:

I like the idea where you put a jar at your table and they put in a dollar for you to kiss. 1. You get to kiss your spouse and 2. It could add up and help towards your honeymoon expenses! 

AGH. NO.

Jen4948

Just leave the couple alone to kiss when they feel like it without pressuring them to do it on command.

jessyk1065

My brother and his wife put little cards on the tables asking guests/couples to come up to the head table and act out a kiss, and then they would recreate it. I think the cutest one was the "Lady & The Tramp," the meal included spaghetti so some people came up and did the spaghetti kiss  

I also went to a wedding of someone I no longer have contact with, for several reasons, that had the money in the jar setup. They said they would give it to charity after, but I agree that it smells of gift grabbing. I decided that I'd just go up with a bunch of pennies and put them in one by one, which put a stop to it pretty quickly...lol

NOLAbridealmost

The money jar for a kiss thing is honestly disgusting.

kerbohl

I like the re-enacting a kiss in order to encourage the couple to kiss like @jessk1065 said.  It's just funny to see the elaborate ways that people kiss, and the bride and groom can kiss however much they want in between that.  At the weddings that I have been at, there is usually only three or four couples that re-enact a fancy kiss for the bride and groom to try, so it doesn't get out of hand. 

Don't ever do the clinking of glasses for the following reason: my BIL is the type that loves this, and at a wedding he went to, he ate with one hand and repeatedly clinked his glass with the other throughout the entire meal.  I think my BIL is awesome, but I'd be ready to kill him after five minutes.  There's always that one guest . . .

MyNameIsNot

jmrose9112 said:

I like the idea where you put a jar at your table and they put in a dollar for you to kiss. 1. You get to kiss your spouse and 2. It could add up and help towards your honeymoon expenses! 

That's disgusting.

You are not a trained seal.  If you want to kiss, kiss.  All these elaborate bells, singing and acting are obnoxious.  

wittykitty14

I hate the clinking.  But then again, I hate all the alternatives even more.  I also hate being put on the spot.

FI and I went to a wedding last summer where the DJ would randomly play a siren in the middle of  a song, which meant that they had to kiss.  It was horribly annoying, and I think the couple was sick of it too. 

Gypsy79

My H and I kissed when we felt like it. I would not have performed on command. That's gross.

ElcaB

I'm not married yet, but I've found that regardless of what you tell your guests to do as an alternative to clinking their glasses, they will clink their glasses anyway! You just have to grin and make the best of it, although personally, I don't mind the tradition. But please, whatever you do, refrain from the dollar jar. It's bad etiquette. 

calliopeia2013

The very idea of kissing my husband on command is like, nails on a chalkboard awful to me- it seriously grosses me out.  We had maybe one person try clinking, but we just ignored them and they stopped.

muenginerd

jessyk1065 said:

My brother and his wife put little cards on the tables asking guests/couples to come up to the head table and act out a kiss, and then they would recreate it. I think the cutest one was the "Lady & The Tramp," the meal included spaghetti so some people came up and did the spaghetti kiss  

 

A friend did this and it turned out to be extremly cute.  They did whenever anyone clinked a glass someone had to kiss.  DJ had a list of couples, started with the grandparents and kind of moved through the family.  Whenever there was clinking the DJ would call out the couple.  They would kiss, then the Bride or Groom would kiss.  It was really great, (and having a list for the DJ they picked the right couples that wouldn't be embarrassed to participate).

manateehugger

muenginerd said:

jessyk1065 said:

My brother and his wife put little cards on the tables asking guests/couples to come up to the head table and act out a kiss, and then they would recreate it. I think the cutest one was the "Lady & The Tramp," the meal included spaghetti so some people came up and did the spaghetti kiss  

 

A friend did this and it turned out to be extremly cute.  They did whenever anyone clinked a glass someone had to kiss.  DJ had a list of couples, started with the grandparents and kind of moved through the family.  Whenever there was clinking the DJ would call out the couple.  They would kiss, then the Bride or Groom would kiss.  It was really great, (and having a list for the DJ they picked the right couples that wouldn't be embarrassed to participate).

Uh, I sincerely hope that they had permission of these couples and they weren't just picked by the bride and groom. I'm not exactly, shy, but I would be mortified if I was expected to perform at kissing my fiance in front of dozens of people. 

I just think it's slightly tacky to have people making out everywhere at a wedding like this. 

QueerFemme

I don't understand the need for everyone to witness multiple kisses, or even have the desire to witness multiple kisses.  Listen, I'm no prude. I think people should kiss and show affection whenever they feel compelled to do so.  But, the act of being beckoned to perform any sort of sex act (yes, kissing can be considered a sex act) is revolting.

Peledreamsofrain

cmgilpin said:

I don't understand the need for everyone to witness multiple kisses, or even have the desire to witness multiple kisses.  Listen, I'm no prude. I think people should kiss and show affection whenever they feel compelled to do so.  But, the act of being beckoned to perform any sort of sex act (yes, kissing can be considered a sex act) is revolting.

This.  I am officially boggled by the notion behind this thread.  Bleh.

blondebirde2013

We didnt like the idea of the clinking either, esecially since we are renting the glassware. I know some people don't like the money jar idea, But we have a "Kissing Jar" And because so many people in both our families have battled, been diagnosed or recently died of cancer, all the funds raised are going towards the canadian cancer society. I think when It is a charity or something close to you and your family people won't have a problem with it. Recently my friend who got married did it for parkinson's and her grandfather who raised her and walked her down the isle has been struggling with parkinson's for a long time. When they announced it it turned out to be a very emotional thing, and people started walking up putting money in the jar immediatly. They raised over $300 for an excellent cause that was close to their heart.

Jen4948

blondebirde2013 said:

We didnt like the idea of the clinking either, esecially since we are renting the glassware. I know some people don't like the money jar idea, But we have a "Kissing Jar" And because so many people in both our families have battled, been diagnosed or recently died of cancer, all the funds raised are going towards the canadian cancer society. I think when It is a charity or something close to you and your family people won't have a problem with it. Recently my friend who got married did it for parkinson's and her grandfather who raised her and walked her down the isle has been struggling with parkinson's for a long time. When they announced it it turned out to be a very emotional thing, and people started walking up putting money in the jar immediatly. They raised over $300 for an excellent cause that was close to their heart.

Sorry, but money jars at weddings are not appropriate.  Your guests should never be expected to open their wallets-not even for a charitable cause.

Also, using your wedding as a fundraiser or awareness-raiser for charity is not appropriate.  Your guests may not want to donate, or they may not support your cause, and it does come off as a bait-and-switch: They want to celebrate with you, not hear about who you think is "in need" or "less fortunate."

Dreamergirl8812

jessyk1065 said:

My brother and his wife put little cards on the tables asking guests/couples to come up to the head table and act out a kiss, and then they would recreate it. I think the cutest one was the "Lady & The Tramp," the meal included spaghetti so some people came up and did the spaghetti kiss  

I also went to a wedding of someone I no longer have contact with, for several reasons, that had the money in the jar setup. They said they would give it to charity after, but I agree that it smells of gift grabbing. I decided that I'd just go up with a bunch of pennies and put them in one by one, which put a stop to it pretty quickly...lol

That is disgusting. It seriously grosses me out. What kind of pervy Stu wants to watch people kiss in sloppy and elaborate ways?

kerbohl

@Dreamergirl8812 By "sloppy" are you referring to the Lady and the Tramp re-enactment?  Because I don't think spaghetti is actually involved . . .
The ones I have attended haven't been "sloppy", and at the weddings I have been to it is done by the older couples that have been married for a long time.  Their idea of "elaborate" is dipping the wife down for a kiss.  None of the kisses I have seen could even be described as "disgusting". 

ADH0906

My FI's brother got married last fall, and it was the first time I'd ever heard of the glass-clinking-kiss-demanding-thing.  I found it super annoying and was kind of weirded out. They could barely get a bite in between all the goddamned clinking. It hadn't occurred to me before reading this that they may do this at our wedding this fall. Crap!

...can I bean dip my clinking wedding guests?