Boob-age & BM Dresses

clg1213

The Boob Fairy never did visit my home....very much an A. 

I have 3 BMs (and 2 11yos that will decide if they are Jr BMs or FGs).  One BM isn't all that differently shaped than I am so I "get" how to help dress her.  The second is about 5'10 but very thin and a DD....I have an idea of what works for her too, in part b/c she was in my first wedding (she has found undergarments that work with even strapless dresses).  The third is my challenge since I just have NO clue how to flatter her...she's built wider and is VERY busty (no idea on size). 

I do plan to chat with them, esp the third, but I wanted to start thinking a bit first...I'd like to be able to have a few idea flagged first.  Any suggestions on necklines that work for women who got an extra helping from the Boob Fairy (and are built sturdier too)? 

 

If it matters (not sure it does since I'm mostly looking for neckline insight and not exact dresses) -- My dress is strapless w/ a "softened sweetheart" neckline).  It is a brunch so I plan to go short for the BMs (and give the 11yos a simple shift in the same color w/ an added sash....BMs likely just the main dark blue)

Giaspo

As usual, I agree with Liatris. She can advise best... Maybe just to two of you can go shopping so you can see what works. I did that with my BF who is also hard to fit.

artbyallie

Yes, letting them pick is really the simplest solution here. The identically-dressed-bridesmaids trend is quickly becoming passé. I'm extremely relieved to pick out my bridesmaid dress soon for my cousin's wedding, since she's chosen a line that has a number of dresses available in the same fabric/color. She has seven bridesmaids total, of some very different body types, and what would be flattering on some of them would look terrible on me and vice versa.

STARMOON44

I agree with the others- let them pick. As a sturdy amply bosomed gal, I'd be going for something with a wide strap and a v- neck. High necklines make me look dumpy, and getting strapless to fit is very difficult. And NOT those popular infinity wrap dresses. I always feel like a boob is about to escape when I'm stuck wearing them.

clg1213

I have thought about the "theme dresses" but wondered if that works w/ just 3 BMs....I feel like I can picture it better with a bigger crew. 

Also, I do have 2 Jr BMs (age 11 so not adult-sized)...would it be odd for those two to match each other and the other 3 be color/fabric-coordinated? 

My plan had been to get a manufacturer who did all ages, put the girls in shift dresses with accent sashes and the BMs in the same main color (and matching each other, but diff from the kids).  But, I'll def take the suggestion into account as I ponder the decision. 

 

Star -- Do V-necks cause cleavage issues or can they just be adjusted and work fine (i.e. pinned higher up or something like that)?

 

Edited to add: Thanks for the replies!!

Peledreamsofrain

Structured dresses work very well for people with large chests.  However, since you have such a wide variety in bodytypes, it's going to be nearly impossible to pick one dress that flatters all of them.

I agree with the others, let them pick their own style of dress.  Tell them length, color, and designer, then let them worry about flattering themselves.

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I had similar issues with my bridesmaids. Two shorts and large chestes, one skinny, no boobs, another no boobs but hips. I decided with all the different body types to make it easy on myself. I took the girls to David's bridal (but you could even do this with a designer name) told them that they could pick out whatever dress they wanted as long as it came in the specific color I wanted and it was full length dress. I told them they don't have to get the same style dress, just color and length. They were all excited because it took pressure off of them to agree on a dress and they could each find something they were comfortable in.

The ironic part to this was that they all ended up falling in love with the same strapless a line dress. It looked great on every body type. For the two girls with large chests, the dress had a built in bra support, so I'm not even sure if they wore strapless bras that day.

Sierra524

Honestly, I would just give them guidelines (length, color and fabric) & let them decide on a dress. Its nearly impossible to have 1 dress that will look good on all 3 girls. If you let them decide, they can pick something that they feel comfortable in.