Hi. I am very new here, tho I have lurked. I have not decided what I am going to do alcohol wise yet so this is just something I have noticed. Everyone here pretty much agrees a cash bar is the worst thing you can do, but I am also guessing most of you do not live in an area that prides itself on how much it can drink. Here, where I am from, cash bars are the norm. Sometimes a couple will do an open bar (but its rare) . Usually its a cash bar where wine served as well (with dinner and dessert-say 2 glasses of wine most likely or three). Say if you don't want wine or water you are free to pay 4 dollars for that beer or rum and coke at the bar. No one thinks any less of the couple for it and no one considers it rude. Its just what people do here. I am assuming its normal here cause you have say 100 guests (mine is less but im not a heavily social person) . Each of those 100 people can down 10-20 drinks that night and probably will if not more. So for each guest you are gonna be looking at 60 on average for alcohol-if you're lucky. Thats 6000 dollars for alcohol on the average side. If you family is on the other side of that average its 8000. And this is for 100 people, I've seen weddings where theres 300 people! $24000! plus tax and tip, servers wages, broken things , etc. Thats a car or a house downpayment.
I would say its a cultural thing and this board is predominantly north american and I guess you guys do not drink like us or maybe your alcohol is cheaper or maybe nearly 30k in alcohol for the wedding alone is normal there?
Now I know some will say well just offer what you can afford and nothing else. Lol. Yes. At a wedding here if you only allowed your guests to have two drinks and didnt give them the option of buying more..at a wedding..where they came fully expecting to spend the night not knowing their own names anymore..there would be riots. They would hark on you for decades. Im not even joking about the decades part. My parents will hark on about some guy who died who angered someone before they were even born to know about it.
I am not writing this to make fun of my cultures drinking, we aren't alcoholics, we just do drink more and can handle that drink quite well, and thus our customs and cultural practices when it comes to weddings and alcohol are quite different.