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Joint Bachelorette party?

Sorry, but another question has just popped up....one bridesmaid told me she would be in the area around 5:30 for the bachelorette party (kinda changes my plans, but beside the point).  She asked if her husband can come or if it's just a girls' night.  I was planning on a girl's night only...does this joint bachelorette party happen? What should I say back?

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    hordolhordol member
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    I have heard of joint bachelor/bachelorette parties, but if yours is just a bachelorette, then that usually implies it's just for girls...however there are no hard rules, so it's up to you. If you don't mind her husband hanging out with you guys then say yes, but if you really want it to be a girl's night out, you're within your right to request that. If your friend really wants to go to your party, I'm sure her husband would understand and be able to occupy himself for the evening.
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    Probably not! Thanks ladies
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     I agree with hordol, that you can do whatever you'd like! I think if it's your Bachelorette, that it's up to you as to how you'd like your evening to be. If you just want the girls, then your friend and her husband should definitely be understanding of that. :)

     My fiance and I are having a co-ed Bachelor/Bachelorette with our wedding party & their plus one's. It's just a personal choice. Some of our wedding party is out of town, so the weekend of the shower we're also doing a camping trip for our Bachelor/Bachelorette, as everyone will be here that weekend anyways. The guys are planning to go paintball during the shower, then we're all heading out to our camping spot early evening. I think there's no proper or improper way to do it. As long as it's what you want! :)  
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    You shouldn't be throwing your own bachelorette party.
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    Who said it was mine? I'm the MOH
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    JMalettas,
      That sounds super cute! maybe I'll do that when I get married :)
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    Thanks scscott06! I'm super excited for it! It's definitely more 'us' and gives the entire wedding party an opportunity to hang out & get to know each other before the big day! :) 

     Just to verify with the comment before, although I believe it was directed at scscott, WE are also not planning this party. We gave an outline to how we wanted the eve to be, and the wedding party took care of the rest! :)
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    Mine was co-ed and FI was there (gasp!!!). We had an awesome time. It's a personal preference. If you've already decided on just a girls night, though, just let her know - it sounds like she's expecting that since she asked. Maybe suggest a local sports bar for him or hook him up with the other husbands/SOs.
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    Hmm, my sister-in-law's bachelorette was at a piano bar in Vegas. FI walked me from our hotel to that casino to drop me off, and she invited him to stay. It ended up being okay, but kind of awkward for him. Esp. when someone requested "Jesse's Girl" for us. Poor guy, he's so tired of that song.

    Co-ed good. All hens and one rooster (cock?), maybe not so much.
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    i went to a bachelor party though i was real close to the groom and the other guys. Went to a strip club and everything. I was one of the guys so if u are close to him and you want him there go ahead but if u want just girls simply say girls night out.
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    hockeywife10hockeywife10 member
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    edited June 2013

    I guess it can't be called a batchelor/batchelorette party, because we are organizing it, but we thought it would be a great time to invite the wedding party, their SO's, and some close friends out to a bonfire, just to celebrate friendships and the wedding.

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    I don't think you have to invite the husband or make it a joint bachelor/ette party if you don't want to.  It's okay to have a 'maids-only party.  But if you're fine including the husband or making it a joint party, then feel free to go for it.
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