Why The WeddingBee isn't Butterflies and Rainbows (unless you're high)

OrchidWeddingBliss

I use to have on there another account under the same day and within hours got kicked out. Why? Well because I refused to stoop to another bride's delusional level and didn't insult her back. Then she decided to flag me (and there it seems like who ever flags first is seen as right, no matter how crazy they are). I thought the bee's had a policy against swearing, and insulting people, but obviously they played favorites. The admin came in and blocked me as MissFemmeFatale was seen as right, even though I was the only one sticking up for her to begin with (goes to show don't be nice to the crazy and delusional). Anyways, to those who are thinking of going there, I don't recommend it unless you're into the delusional and being kicked out for being nice to them. 

FYI, I did message the admin and asked others, but as you can imagine they're ignoring it. I guess they don't want the delusional gone and the others are just way too nice to say anything to the delusional (I was once one of them and boy am I sorry). 

MoonlightSilver

I'm sorry, who are you?

smalfrie19

How ironic. Most brides leave here for the bee and say the same thing about us. Hope you stick around. Be advised some of us do have teeth and aren't here to validate bad or tacky ideas. 

Amyliz1215

My one day on WB I was constantly thinking no, this can't actually be happening. I feel like all I saw over there were spoiled brats at best. One girl actually felt that when the bride chose her colors (navy and coral, nothing outlandish) it was a personal vendetta against her. I was banned after one post. I had a dissenting opinion which was expressed politely but I guess you have to agree with everyone on WB. Whatever. It was creepy over there anyway. I like to get real advice, not have smoke blown up my ass.

OrchidWeddingBliss

Oh, I'm new here. So I'm not sure what type of intro other that to give myself. I was just taking about my opinion and experience on the site.  

OrchidWeddingBliss

I prefer it rather than having to agree with everyone (even the delusional). Also, it seems like the admins are just ignoring my messages. I guess they don't like being called out on their own b.s. 

OrchidWeddingBliss

When you mention coral it reminds me of this one bride that was upset her Mother-in-Law had purchased a coral dress as her bride's maids were wearing coral. I was shocked at how many people agreed with her that her Mother-in-Law was out to get her. I didn't know once you pick a color or have it in your wedding no one else can wear it. I guess my guest will have a hard time finding something to wear as I have a candy buffet and there will be a lot of colors. 

Peledreamsofrain

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MuppetFan

I had a wedding bee account. I got blocked. I don't even think I disagreed with anyone.

AddieCake

I was relieved to get blocked. 

rajahmd

Yay! I finally got banned.  Woot, I'm one of the cool kids.  Mission accomplished!

No clue why though. Nothing I posted was against TOS. Oh well.  Like I give a fuck. Ha!

vegasgroom

They banned me the morning after TK boycott day.  I spent a few hours answering weeks and months old unanswered questions in their Vegas forum and they thanked me by giving me the boot.

WinstonsGirl

My positive supportive comments are still "moderated for trolling".  There was some useful advice in there too!!

OrchidWeddingBliss

I guess they saw me as a troll as they didn't like the fact in one of my posts I called out brides for being inconsiderate to their guests. I thought they wanted advice and the truth.

Now, feel free to tell me if I'm wrong about this (not all of them were like this, but there were some characters):

• They complain about the cost of weddings, etc. and yet when they're invited to a dry wedding because the couples don't believe in drinking, can't afford an open bar, or have a reasonable reason they rage on and on about how rude it is, they're pushing their beliefs on others, etc. and how they won't show up. YET they state that they don't need alcohol to have fun. Really? So why are you saying the party will be boring, inconsiderate to guests, and it'll end early? 
• They don't like children/ don't want them at their wedding BUT when a guest can't make it because of that (like they can't find child care) they get mad at them and start saying how awful their guest is being.
• They talk about how they don't care about the money/ gifts, but if a guest doesn't give them enough they go on and on about it! One complained that people hadn't given her enough gifts! I'm sorry I didn't know you were suppose to pay admission to go to a wedding. Why don't you just sell the invitations to your charity wedding then? I just feel that people should pay for as much as they could afford rather than counting on the guest to pay it back - and that's coming from someone that is from a culture where guest are expected to do so.

There were more things, but I forgot. I take it they don't like reality much?

MrsProfessor

*Snort laughing* You posted a vent about how catty people are while trying to say you weren't being catty. Seriously, you don't see the irony in that?

OrchidWeddingBliss

MrsProfessor said:

*Snort laughing* You posted a vent about how catty people are while trying to say you weren't being catty. Seriously, you don't see the irony in that?

I do see where you're coming from but I thought they would like to know a bit of how some of them were behaving. 

I remember one of them (it even turned into a newspaper article later on) was upset that her cousin, who she hadn't seen in six years wasn't going to make it to the wedding. Even she said that it would be a 2 drive there and another 2 back. I don't remember how many children the cousin had, I think 5, so she couldn't find childcare for all 5 of them. Now, don't quote on me this, but I think part of the problem was that the cousin couldn't afford childcare and also explained to her in private messages that it would be an over night trip because of how late the party was and and some other reasons. Yet the bride was just going on and on about how her cousin didn't care. The thing that stuck out to me was you haven't seen this person for 6 years, they can't find childcare and explain to you they can't go if they're children can't, and yet you're still upset?

Another classic, she made her reception adults only, her friend now lives in Europe. If the birth goes smoothly her friend will have a two week old new born. Her husband can't go with her and since she's nursing, she can't leave it. The bride doesn't offer childcare and I think her best was, leave it in the hotel room and keep running back and fourth. Then she was sad because her friend wasn't going to make it. I think this was also the post that said her friend should have planned her pregnancy better so she could attend the wedding. 

I could go on mentioning classics. But one thing I did find quiet rude was from people that said if the couple wanted their presence there they HAD to serve alcohol. I think this one was shocking to me as my in my culture, when someone gives you something or invites you somewhere you should be happy with what's given.  

MrsProfessor

OrchidWeddingBliss  Do you notice how you don't like being told something different from what you were expecting? Irony again. In truth, your behavior is no different than the people you're complaining about.

wabanzi

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MrsProfessor said:

*Snort laughing* You posted a vent about how catty people are while trying to say you weren't being catty. Seriously, you don't see the irony in that?

I do see where you're coming from but I thought they would like to know a bit of how some of them were behaving. 

I remember one of them (it even turned into a newspaper article later on) was upset that her cousin, who she hadn't seen in six years wasn't going to make it to the wedding. Even she said that it would be a 2 drive there and another 2 back. I don't remember how many children the cousin had, I think 5, so she couldn't find childcare for all 5 of them. Now, don't quote on me this, but I think part of the problem was that the cousin couldn't afford childcare and also explained to her in private messages that it would be an over night trip because of how late the party was and and some other reasons. Yet the bride was just going on and on about how her cousin didn't care. The thing that stuck out to me was you haven't seen this person for 6 years, they can't find childcare and explain to you they can't go if they're children can't, and yet you're still upset?

She was upset because after a few private conversations about children accommodations, her cousin blasted her on Facebook, stating some pretty horrid things in her public status updates. Also keep in mind, her cousin got married just a few years before and did not bother to invite this bride, so I don't believe they were even that close. It was her cousin's public FB rant that was picked up by Huffington Post & STFU Parents.

Another classic, she made her reception adults only, her friend now lives in Europe. If the birth goes smoothly her friend will have a two week old new born. Her husband can't go with her and since she's nursing, she can't leave it. The bride doesn't offer childcare and I think her best was, leave it in the hotel room and keep running back and fourth. Then she was sad because her friend wasn't going to make it. I think this was also the post that said her friend should have planned her pregnancy better so she could attend the wedding. 

It was the friend who mentioned she had tried to time pregancy to avoid this situation, not the bride.  The bride was providing childcare at a nearby hotel, but this would not work for the 7-week old.  She was posting for advice.

I could go on mentioning classics. But one thing I did find quiet rude was from people that said if the couple wanted their presence there they HAD to serve alcohol. I think this one was shocking to me as my in my culture, when someone gives you something or invites you somewhere you should be happy with what's given.

I lurk and I post on both sites (and others), as many people do. Honestly, I see no difference in the quality of the posts, the topics, questions, etc.  It is not that the WB needs me to defend it, I just thought the WB posts should be correctly reiterated.