Shower or not?

Jdunk2008

So to keep this short our wedding is in September. Around 100 people are expected to be in attendance; 90% of that is family.

My aunts have offered to do a wedding shower for me. I found a date that works and we agreed on it. Now that I'm looking online at registering I'm wondering if I'm even going to have enough on my registry to really need a shower. We have lived together for several years. I lived on my own before. Most of what we have is less than 2 years old. I can replace some things to update but I don't feel like we need a lot of stuff! Maybe going to the store would be different than just looking at stuff online?

I know its not tasteful to ask but we would prefer to have money. We really want to buy a house in about a year. I'm not going to ask for money but I know if I keep my registry short people will either come up with what they think we need or give money.

Should I opt out of the wedding shower ?

jessicabessica

If you don't want boxed gifts, you should not have a shower.  If you would like to accept the offer, though, think about what things you might need--towels and sheets have a limited lifespan, so even if yours are newer, you could register for more or nicer sets.  Kitchen gadgets?

Do you like to cook?  You could ask your aunts if they'd be open to a recipe shower where everyone brings a favorite recipe for you.  My shower hostess did this for me and sent out recipe cards with the invitations and then gave me a box for all of the cards.  People still brought gifts to my shower, but I think your aunts could call it a "recipe shower" and make it clear that that was the point.

itzMS

DH & I received a recipe shower. It was actually fun. The instructions were for the guests to bring a favorite recipe as well as a small kitchen gadget they suggest we use to make the recipe.

We've actually used most of the gadgets...and the ones we didn't were pretty easy to quietly put in a charity donation box if they didn't have a gift receipt.