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I'm being a complete psycho.

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So, after going to 3-4 bridal stores, I found THE DRESS! I am in love with it, and I think it is very flattering, modern, different, and perfect for me. When I first started looking for dresses I kept looking for lace. I was convinced I wanted lace, but once I had them on me, they were all very "meh". I realized I liked the idea of lace much more than actually wearing it. I also stayed away from ballgowns. I tried a few on and disliked them, mostly because I prefer the fitted bodices. I ended up with this gorgeous Allure dress:
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Shortly after purchasing, FI pointed out the fact he really likes ballgowns, especially traditional looking ballgowns with lots of lace. Well, I had felt bad that I didn't give ballgowns a fair chance, because I didn't find them as flattering. I also happened to stumble upon this Justin Alexander dress on Pinterest and decided to go try it on: 
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It's basically the exact opposite of my dress. After careful consideration, I decided that even though FI thinks he likes ballgowns, he probably hasn't had enough exposure to other types of dresses to really form an opinion. Plus, once he sees me in my dress on the big day, he will forget about ballgowns all together because it's about ME in the dress. I really don't think I am second guessing myself, because as much as I admit the lace ballgown is such a gorgeous dress and would look really nice on my wedding day, it isn't all of the things I realized I loved about my dress, and didn't give me the emotional response I got with it either.

But even so... I keep thinking about this damn lace dress! Anyone else have quasi-crazy moments like this?
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Re: I'm being a complete psycho.

  • I think both look wonderful. I don't think he'll care too much about the style, but the first ones poofy enough that it may give him what he's looking for. FWIW, my H told me he really didn't want me in a ball gown, so I almost chose another dress (but I liked mine better and it was cheaper than the other one I liked). Turns out, he didn't like ball gowns because all he thought about was "my big fat gypsy wedding."
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    @misshart00 and @CMGr Thanks! I am slightly convinced he doesn't know what he is talking about haha. The only wedding we have actually been to that he has commented on liking the dress in person, was a bride wearing one of the White by Vera Wang dresses from David's Bridal. It was similar to mine with the fitted bodice and poof at the bottom. I think I have a good chance he will love my dress.

    Also @misshart00, LOVE the picture you have in your sig!!

    @EllaYoung Thank you! The first definitely makes me feel more beautiful. I feel like with the second, it is a beautiful dress, but I feel a little silly in it. I feel super confident in the first dress.
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  • Allure 8966!! i thought that was the one i wanted!! (couldnt find it in CA).. Shortly found allure 2557.


    Congrats fellow allure bride!
  • I love you in the first fitted dress. Most guys don't know the different styles that wedding dresses come in. The only style they are familiar with are the big ball gowns like you see disney princesses wearing. His jaw is going to drop when he sees you in that dress that you love too. Stop second guessing yourself. If you are happy, everyone else will be too
  • I bought my dress really early and go back and forth on whether I still like it or not.  It doesn't fit very well, so that doesn't help :-/
    But the dress you went with is gorgeous and looks amazing on you...so do not second guess it.  He will love it on you!
  • I understand you completely - I was torn between 3 - one from a previous, cancelled wedding that I hung on to, and two new dresses that I bought because I couldn't decide. Talk about psycho. ;) Like you, I was torn between the idea I had in my head of what I thought I should look like, and the dress that really felt like "me". Ignore your FI - as others and you yourself pointed out, he probably has no idea what he's talking about. I'd put money on "ballgown" meaning "big white dress" to him. The first dress looks absolutely stunning on you. Go with your gut, then quit looking. 
  • I think the first one looks the best on you. The second one is pretty though. 
    "You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you." -Ray Bradbury 
  • the second dress is pretty but that first dress is so flattering on you. choose the one that YOU like. he's going to think you're beautiful no matter what.
  • Most guys don't even know what a 'ballgown' is. He probably thinks every formal gown is called a 'ballgown' and doesn't know it's a silhouette.
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  • He'll love whatever dress you wear! :)
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    Thank you everyone! I am glad to know it's not just my FI  who uses these works to describe really general wedding dresses, haha. I am also very happy to hear I am not the only one who is like this!

    @crysspears your dress is so pretty! I am actually having them take the sash/belt off, so luckily 8966 is very accommodating for that.

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